A question to ponder

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Diagnostics aside, I yam what I yam and who I yam . An aspie woman named Sharon Loree once said: "Normal people prefer to go out with other normal people, the sense a difference and it turns them off". Now I realize that many of you are in relationships with NTs but in my life what she said has proven to be VERY true. At least 90% of women are either intimidated by my personality or they're irritated by it. So I conclude that I personally am the kind of man that the majority of women find very hard to relate to. I do believe that this is the Main Reason why so many aspie men have such bad luck finding women-because women find it very difficult to relate to us. So here's the question: Suppose you had something you were wanting to sell, something that is both very rare yet very few people would actually want to buy, how would you go about it?

ebay? LOL, you got me.

And the more specialised the "product", the more specialised the market needs to be.

It might be illegal to sell yourself on Ebay

That aside, you go to the collectors and specialty shops. Find something you are interested in, and look for others who are interested in the same thing.

Oh and children, play nice Name calling is not called for.

Yeah, welcome to the overly-literal club. You'll get used to it. Maybe.

Think of it like writing a resume, you know, all your good points, what you want to acomplish, ect. Do you just want to get laid, do you want a girlfriend, do you want to get married? Why should they like you? Think about it so you can make it convincing.

I'm sorry. I know it's a serious subject. But

Okay. I'm calmer now. My good looking, gentle son with a good job as a video game programmer has the same problem, and my heart breaks for him and his desire for a wife. I marvel now at how my husband and I got together. I've mentioned before that a number of men have told my husband how glad they are that they aren't married to me.

My single brother was fast approaching 50. He would put ads in I think Yahoo and then get dates with people he was sorry to share the planet with. I finally said he had to be putting something wrong in the personal ads, so I wrote him one. I mentioned that he was a Christian, politically conservative, gentle, low maintainance, a gadget inventor, careful with his money, a caver, hiker, enjoyed science-fiction, had diabetes, and needed a wife who was a Christian, low maintainance, careful with money, and an ability to cook was a plus, though not necessary. I might have put in some more details. Bingo! In a few months he was engaged to a wonderful woman who was looking for who he was, and few months after that they were married.

If my son would let me, I would write an ad for him.

If you have any females who have your interest at heart, you might have her write the ad for you. Most of us don't really know how to describe ourselves well.

unfortunatley women find that i am not worth there time. im not botherd by it though, i more use to it

I was thinking just a couple of days ago that the most common thing that turns women off about me is probably my personality, since that's what really makes me different. I don't have a knack for making people feel good about themselves, and am not a good listener or communicator, though of course I try very hard at least at the listening and communicating part. I reckon that I make a bad overall impression on the majority of people I meet, the minority where this is not the case I become loyal towards and they often become my friends.

Yes i am going to join an adult aspie support group.
It will be interesting because I don't personally know any other adult aspies.

I am not mating with another aspie though not without the pill anyway because there is no way I want an aspie child.

Aspie support groups might be good ways for women with AS to meet single men, but would I imagine be much less likely places for men with AS to date single women.