Opposites Attract

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I have aspergers syndrome and I am worried becuase I have got lightish brown hair and brown eyes that I might attract the wrong type of girls like red heads or blondes ( I only go for brunnetes). I feel that perhaps i am attracting the wrong types because a few red heads and blondes have fancied me before Its basicly my theory of oppositites attract since I am brunnete it might be harder to attract another brunnete. Becuase of this issue at this point in time I am seriously against marrying since I feel I may not find the right type for me.

Whats worse is that my brother has blond hair and blue eyes and he might end up with a dark haired brunnete and I might not.

I would appreciate some answers to this problem?

I think the phrase 'opposites attract' usually refers to personalities (i.e chatty people dating quiet people). I've never known it to be the case with hair colour.

If in doubt, and if it really means that much to you, you could always dye your hair... (try blue just to see what happens!)

You date by hair colour? What about their personality?

And Lene is right, the phrase means personalities; it has never meant the way two people look, since relationship dynamic is based on personality.

As far as I believe, your entitled to your own standards - not sure how they'll work out for ya but that's another story altogether.

I really think personality and hair color are largely unequivocal. True, you'll find more preppy blonds than not, you'll find more redheads who are alternative in certain specific ways, but I really don't think - if your into brunettes, that they'll be all one way with one type of guy they're attracted to that your hair and eye color will have anything to do with them accepting or rejecting you. I could be wrong, maybe an evolutionary psychologist would debate that desire to blend genes for healthy balance would make this more salient then I think but, so far, I've known enough dark-haired couples not to think twice about it.

What the f**k does hair colour have to do with anything? That's like ruling people out for their race.

exactly.

"opposites attract" is all about the personality. I am attracted to outgoing, social types, probably because I am so whitdrawn myself and would love for some of that sociability to rub off on me (if that's even possible).