Would you agree with this statement?

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People say "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder"........and its politically correct to affirm this. But if you really take a good look at what people find beautiful you cant help but notice that MOST people tend to find beauty in the SAME things! Beauty is quantitative but not qualitative. Its nearly impossible to pin down just exactly *what* makes someone or something beautiful but you certainly know it when you see it and I say its quantitative because given any 2 people, you can rank them in terms of who's the better looking of the two. But there is one thing that pretty much ALL of us find to beautiful, and that one thing is symmetry.

Have to disagree here; more times than not, whilst out with others, when the group points out someone they find is attractive, I'm left rather baffled. Generally, I find their tastes rather common, cookie-cutter... a little base even, perhaps. And while symmetry can be attractive and soothing, it is not something I find so requisite. Yes, we all have preferences - but what drives and dictates them differs greatly.


M.

This sounds really simple to me.

The majority of people are not 'great looking'.

Therefore most people cannot marry 'great looking' partners as there are just not enough of them to go around.

All depends on your idea of 'great looking' I suppose.

yeah i know you see alot of goodlooking people walking around with ugly partners or alot less attractive.
Like they say Beauty is in the eye of the beerholder.

I wish i had some one to share my interpersonal thoughts and feelings with

In my opinion I think good looking people are the ones that sometimes don't get married and possibly live thier lives having flings, one night stands, dates and short relationships. I also know someone who is considered by other people to be incredibly good looking but he does not like the idea of commitment and settling down so he what we would call a 'womeniser'. This all depends though if the good looking person does find the right partner one day who they feel attracted to.

Look at George Clooney he is still a bachelor and would rarther have various relationships throughout his life then to get married have kids etc...

Jamesy,

Looks do not equate to behavior. Thank you.


M.

*blinks skeptically* Well I have no doubt that some individuals(such as yourself) may have unusual tastes but a lot of effort has been put forth by cognitive neuroscience to figure out what sorts of things we humans find beautiful and symmetry is one of those things that is admired in pretty much ALL cultures and by the Overwhelming Majority of the human population.

Be skeptical; I agreed that there is beauty in symmetry, but I also tend to find the raw beauty more appealing than the perfect. An example - one summer I heard one of the finest young female classical voices in the nation, an award-winning vocalist... and spent an hour miserable listening to an absolutely precise and soulless performance. It was so polished that it was uninteresting. Flaws are inherent; appreciation of them has added a lot to my life. But moreso is the fact that different people have different tastes, my own experience given as an example where one man's magnifique is another man's mediocre.


M.

no i would not. Just because they may not look good to you, dosnt mean they dont look good to their paranters. Not all of us re attrcited to the same atributes

I agree with your brother's statement to some degree. I believe that most people DON'T marry the most attractive or the most beautiful partners, because that is an extremely unlikely scenario. I think people compromise in the looks department, they will sacrifice one thing for another. For instance, a guy might end up marrying a cute girl, not an incredibly gorgeous girl, because he knows the probability of getting one is slim to none, so it is best to stick with something achievable. He is sticking with the best he can get, otherwise he'll be alone and will have no one.

There are rare circumstances though when a guy dates and marries a beautiful goddess of a female. However, it is a rarity, unless you've very lucky or you're a wealthy man, from which an attractive girl can feel safe and secure around you financially. This is the Mystery Method's train of thought, that beautiful girls go after guys with a higher survival and replication values. This is explains why some beautiful women marry average looking to unattractive men who are well off financially or rich, they aren't attracted to them due to looks, but for the sense of security.

I don't know what happens to "good looking" people and what their lot in life will be. If they are smart, they will learn to marry for personality as opposed to looks. Women my age (21-25) may be about all looks and physical beauty, but I tell you the truth. When they get in their late 20's or early 30's, they won't be so keen on appearences, they will need to survive, and thus won't be so superficial (but of course, there are exceptions). When you're young and living with your parents or with roomates and you're not really on your own and paying for everything, you have the luxury of being able to go for physical attractiveness solely. But when you're older and on your own, you'll quickly wise up and try to have some relationship, for the sake of survival or to negate the loneliness you feel (I'm speaking in what I presume is the female sense).

Your brother is correct. If your ideas about people come from TV and films, you may think there are a lot of beautiful people in the world, but that's because they only hire beautiful people to work in visual media. Try looking around someplace where there are large numbers of ordinary people--big box stores or amusement parks, for example--and you will be surprised by how many of them are unattractive. I mean, heck, just by statistics we know that half of everyone in the US is overweight! Yet the majority of people do get married, despite not conforming to Hollywood's standards of beauty.

Ariel obviously you didn't read what I posted earlier on in the fourm in regards to your answer?

If you have not read it well here it is!

"Well all I have to do is go to my local gym to see very good looking women so I don't know?"

Well, obviously that's because the only women who go to gyms are the kind who work out and care about their appearance. I'll bet the majority of American women don't even belong to a gym...

I agree, I absolutely find the stereotypical unattractive guys to be very attractive.

"If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty women your wife
Go for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you" - Jimmy soul