Sexual Confusion

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Do you think tat aspies, as opposed to NT people are more likely to be confused about their orientation or sexual identity?

No

I don't think there's any link between the two.

I figured it out when I was 13

I don't know.

I'm not really confused about mine at this moment.

Oh, and it's not that I think it is not the case, it's that I don't think it is the case. A subtle yet important logical distinction there...

I don't think it's necessarily the case that Aspies would be more confused about their sexuality and sexual orientation than NTs.

Although I do think it's possible that it might cross their minds, if they're undiagnosed and they feel 'different' and are confused about their general identity (as opposed to sexuality identity), then they might wonder whether it's a sexual identity issue or maybe a transgender issue or other kinds of identity issues.

I've never really been confused about my sexuality or sexual orientation, but I think as a child I had some problems with identity in that I felt different to my sisters and unaccepted in the family in the same way they were, and sometimes I used to wonder whether I wasn't my parents 'real' child, I did used to wonder whether I was in fact adopted and maybe that's why I was different (although it's clear that me and my sisters look very alike, so I wasn't 'different' in that sense). So, yes, I think I did have some identity confusion as a small child.

Maybe for other undiagnosed Aspies that kind of general identity confusion might manifest by asking themselves if the difference they feel relates to sexuality or gender in some way. But I don't think that Aspies are necessarily more likely to be gay or heteroflexible or asexual or transgender or anything.

It happens more with younger people. By the time you get to my calcified age, you know what blows your skirt up...

What turns you on? That's probably the first clue.

I think SOCIAL confusion is more common for aspies and this can transmogrify into sexual confusion if a person is being socially pressured (either by individuals or society in general), or getting confusing messages about what sex is supposed to signify or be to them.

I don't think it is causal; however, I can see where one on the spectrum could experience things differently, not learning from the same set of social expectation that drives the greater whole.


M.

Again, makura and I are in agreement. While I don't think there's a statistical difference, the way we perceive things such as our sexuality is undoubtedly different than NTs.

I happen to know that I'm straight at this point, but the idea of the possibility had indeed crossed my mind when I was younger.

We do seem to agree a bit, which surprises me since I often find myself flailing at windmills - but certainly welcomed. As for when younger... I remember being asked while in secondary school about my sexuality (and being surprised that I was straight), I responded that there are some men I find attractive... but then I realize I know something of how the male mind works, and that's pretty much a turn-off for me. *chuckle* I suppose heteroflexible would be the right word for me, then perhaps?


M.

It's the opposite for me. I always knew I was a homosexual guy. Always.