16 Dec 2008, 4:07 pm
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Watching romantic comedies can spoil your love life, a study by a university in Edinburgh has claimed.
Rom-coms have been blamed by relationship experts at Heriot Watt University for promoting unrealistic expectations when it comes to love.
They found fans of films such as Runaway Bride and Notting Hill often fail to communicate with their partner.
Many held the view if someone is meant to be with you, then they should know what you want without you telling them.
Psychologists at the family and personal relationships laboratory at the university studied 40 top box office hits between 1995 and 2005, and identified common themes which they believed were unrealistic.
The movies included You've Got Mail, Maid In Manhattan, The Wedding Planner and While You Were Sleeping.
The university's Dr Bjarne Holmes said: "Marriage counsellors often see couples who believe that sex should always be perfect, and if someone is meant to be with you then they will know what you want without you needing to communicate it.
"We now have some emerging evidence that suggests popular media play a role in perpetuating these ideas in people's minds.
"The problem is that while most of us know that the idea of a perfect relationship is unrealistic, some of us are still more influenced by media portrayals than we realise."
As part of the project, 100 student volunteers were asked to watch the 2001 romantic comedy Serendipity, while a further 100 watched a David Lynch drama.
Students watching the romantic film were later found to be more likely to believe in fate and destiny. A further study found that fans of romantic comedies had a stronger belief in predestined love.
Kimberly Johnson, who also worked on the study, said: "Films do capture the excitement of new relationships but they also wrongly suggest that trust and committed love exist from the moment people meet, whereas these are qualities that normally take years to develop."
Rom-coms have been blamed by relationship experts at Heriot Watt University for promoting unrealistic expectations when it comes to love.
They found fans of films such as Runaway Bride and Notting Hill often fail to communicate with their partner.
Many held the view if someone is meant to be with you, then they should know what you want without you telling them.
Psychologists at the family and personal relationships laboratory at the university studied 40 top box office hits between 1995 and 2005, and identified common themes which they believed were unrealistic.
The movies included You've Got Mail, Maid In Manhattan, The Wedding Planner and While You Were Sleeping.
The university's Dr Bjarne Holmes said: "Marriage counsellors often see couples who believe that sex should always be perfect, and if someone is meant to be with you then they will know what you want without you needing to communicate it.
"We now have some emerging evidence that suggests popular media play a role in perpetuating these ideas in people's minds.
"The problem is that while most of us know that the idea of a perfect relationship is unrealistic, some of us are still more influenced by media portrayals than we realise."
As part of the project, 100 student volunteers were asked to watch the 2001 romantic comedy Serendipity, while a further 100 watched a David Lynch drama.
Students watching the romantic film were later found to be more likely to believe in fate and destiny. A further study found that fans of romantic comedies had a stronger belief in predestined love.
Kimberly Johnson, who also worked on the study, said: "Films do capture the excitement of new relationships but they also wrongly suggest that trust and committed love exist from the moment people meet, whereas these are qualities that normally take years to develop."
as well as most other films, books and tv-shows.
I wish I knew this when I was younger
16 Dec 2008, 5:04 pm
anna-banana wrote:
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as well as most other films, books and tv-shows.
I wish I knew this when I was younger
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Watching romantic comedies can spoil your love life, a study by a university in Edinburgh has claimed.
Rom-coms have been blamed by relationship experts at Heriot Watt University for promoting unrealistic expectations when it comes to love.
They found fans of films such as Runaway Bride and Notting Hill often fail to communicate with their partner.
Many held the view if someone is meant to be with you, then they should know what you want without you telling them.
Psychologists at the family and personal relationships laboratory at the university studied 40 top box office hits between 1995 and 2005, and identified common themes which they believed were unrealistic.
The movies included You've Got Mail, Maid In Manhattan, The Wedding Planner and While You Were Sleeping.
The university's Dr Bjarne Holmes said: "Marriage counsellors often see couples who believe that sex should always be perfect, and if someone is meant to be with you then they will know what you want without you needing to communicate it.
"We now have some emerging evidence that suggests popular media play a role in perpetuating these ideas in people's minds.
"The problem is that while most of us know that the idea of a perfect relationship is unrealistic, some of us are still more influenced by media portrayals than we realise."
As part of the project, 100 student volunteers were asked to watch the 2001 romantic comedy Serendipity, while a further 100 watched a David Lynch drama.
Students watching the romantic film were later found to be more likely to believe in fate and destiny. A further study found that fans of romantic comedies had a stronger belief in predestined love.
Kimberly Johnson, who also worked on the study, said: "Films do capture the excitement of new relationships but they also wrongly suggest that trust and committed love exist from the moment people meet, whereas these are qualities that normally take years to develop."
Rom-coms have been blamed by relationship experts at Heriot Watt University for promoting unrealistic expectations when it comes to love.
They found fans of films such as Runaway Bride and Notting Hill often fail to communicate with their partner.
Many held the view if someone is meant to be with you, then they should know what you want without you telling them.
Psychologists at the family and personal relationships laboratory at the university studied 40 top box office hits between 1995 and 2005, and identified common themes which they believed were unrealistic.
The movies included You've Got Mail, Maid In Manhattan, The Wedding Planner and While You Were Sleeping.
The university's Dr Bjarne Holmes said: "Marriage counsellors often see couples who believe that sex should always be perfect, and if someone is meant to be with you then they will know what you want without you needing to communicate it.
"We now have some emerging evidence that suggests popular media play a role in perpetuating these ideas in people's minds.
"The problem is that while most of us know that the idea of a perfect relationship is unrealistic, some of us are still more influenced by media portrayals than we realise."
As part of the project, 100 student volunteers were asked to watch the 2001 romantic comedy Serendipity, while a further 100 watched a David Lynch drama.
Students watching the romantic film were later found to be more likely to believe in fate and destiny. A further study found that fans of romantic comedies had a stronger belief in predestined love.
Kimberly Johnson, who also worked on the study, said: "Films do capture the excitement of new relationships but they also wrongly suggest that trust and committed love exist from the moment people meet, whereas these are qualities that normally take years to develop."
as well as most other films, books and tv-shows.
I wish I knew this when I was younger
But while all the young women were developing their expectations from romantic comedies, the young men were getting theirs from internet porn. Then later in life, the two groups meet and hilarity ensues, inspiring a whole new generation of romantic comedies and internet porn. It's the circle of life.
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16 Dec 2008, 5:19 pm
drowbot0181 wrote:
ducasse wrote:
drowbot0181 wrote:
But while all the young women were developing their expectations from romantic comedies, the young men were getting theirs from internet porn. Then later in life, the two groups meet and hilarity ensues, inspiring a whole new generation of romantic comedies and internet porn. It's the circle of life.
I think you have neatly encapsulated everything wrong with western society. We're all doomed.
Well, I think the two genres are beginning to merge (have you seen Zack & Miri?), so it will all work out in the end and we will all be on the same page, so to speak. =]
LOL I hope that happens within my lifetime
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16 Dec 2008, 5:20 pm
16 Dec 2008, 5:33 pm
anna-banana wrote:
drowbot0181 wrote:
ducasse wrote:
drowbot0181 wrote:
But while all the young women were developing their expectations from romantic comedies, the young men were getting theirs from internet porn. Then later in life, the two groups meet and hilarity ensues, inspiring a whole new generation of romantic comedies and internet porn. It's the circle of life.
I think you have neatly encapsulated everything wrong with western society. We're all doomed.
Well, I think the two genres are beginning to merge (have you seen Zack & Miri?), so it will all work out in the end and we will all be on the same page, so to speak. =]
LOL I hope that happens within my lifetime
Are you sure? Just imagine what the first date would be like...
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Watching romantic comedies can spoil your love life ...
Rom-coms have been blamed ... for promoting unrealistic expectations when it comes to love.
They found fans ... often fail to communicate with their partner.
Many held the view if someone is meant to be with you, then they should know what you want without you telling them.
Marriage counsellors often see couples who believe that sex should always be perfect, and if someone is meant to be with you then they will know what you want without you needing to communicate it.
... popular media play a role in perpetuating these ideas in people's minds.
... some of us are still more influenced by media portrayals than we realise.
Students watching the romantic film were later found to be more likely to believe in fate and destiny. A further study found that fans of romantic comedies had a stronger belief in predestined love.
Films do capture the excitement of new relationships but they also wrongly suggest that trust and committed love exist from the moment people meet, whereas these are qualities that normally take years to develop.
Rom-coms have been blamed ... for promoting unrealistic expectations when it comes to love.
They found fans ... often fail to communicate with their partner.
Many held the view if someone is meant to be with you, then they should know what you want without you telling them.
Marriage counsellors often see couples who believe that sex should always be perfect, and if someone is meant to be with you then they will know what you want without you needing to communicate it.
... popular media play a role in perpetuating these ideas in people's minds.
... some of us are still more influenced by media portrayals than we realise.
Students watching the romantic film were later found to be more likely to believe in fate and destiny. A further study found that fans of romantic comedies had a stronger belief in predestined love.
Films do capture the excitement of new relationships but they also wrongly suggest that trust and committed love exist from the moment people meet, whereas these are qualities that normally take years to develop.
Well, DUH!! !
They needed a collegiate study to determine all this? In my dating years, I quickly learned that there are two type of literature found in a woman's home that are sure signs that she'll have unrealistic expectations for a relationship. One was the Harlequin Romance, and the other was the Cosmopolitan magazine. Finding either in your date's possession meant that nothing you ever did or said would ever be good enough for her.
Not a spot-on certainty, but it's the sure way to bet!
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