Does anyone else know someone like this?

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I know a number of guys that can get any girl without trying (except for the one they really really want, sometimes ) I feel like they have this ..."hutspa" or whatever it's called. Like girls are ... *magically* (I know that sounds silly) drawn to them. Is it because they play music and they are in a band, or because they have this confidence, or is it seriously something biologically unexplainable. I don't know x.x. Am I the only one that sees it?

It's 'chutzpah', though pronounced with an 'h', as you know.

Magliabechi.

I just learned something, thanks! Did I use the right word?

yeah, i konw a few of them..... basicly everyone except me...... anyways, off topic but heres an interesting story:

I had this girl i liked back in gr 10, found out 2 years later she liked me at about the same time, and we were both just a little too shy to do anything about it. We've also been good friends since gr 10, but im sure youve got some stories somewhat similar to this.

I wish

I think so, it's a Yiddish word meaning to act with dynamism and nerve.

'Charisma' is another similar concept ( and desirable social quality to possess ) - meaning to possess an attractive sense of vitality.


Magliabechi.

Awesome! thanks

I think its just that if you having a cute boy and add a muscial instrument or band then that signals to young girls that he is okay to squeal over and it be socially acceptable. As far as still not getting the girl he wants maybe that's just human nature that we are never happy with what we have. As Corey Hart says in the song Lone Wolf "never get what I want, never want what I get". If you look at rich celebrities who have nice homes, cars, clothes, good food, etc they usually end up screwing it all up for themselves by seeking comfort in drugs, alcohol or gambling and then they lose it all. Seems most people aren't happy unless they have something more to want for that they view as unattainable.

^ Oooo I guess that's true, when I think about it that way.

Its about the demeanor. They know what they want, and girls know what they want. When both coincide, it works out. For a shy person who's unsure of how to proceed, women get the wrong signals and assume a lack of interest and naturally gravitate towards men who seem interested/interesting.

Maybe they naturally give off a stronger pheromone than most.

Or they have exceptional talent. (May be seen playing piano or other beautiful-sounding instrument somewhere at a restaurant or something,) or may have a lot of money, or just be one accomplished man.

One of my friends is exceptionally magnetic... combination of looks, personality, status, general effect. And he has been able to attract and seduce generally almost any woman that he chooses to pursue. At the same time, he is often lonely as I have been, because all the allure in the world doesn't mean that you will connect with any of them. I think some people have the benefit of advantages, but it doesn't define any of us to any specific role or assure us of any more joy in life.


M.

yeah, I've met a few of those. I think it's the mixture of looks and (most of all) confidence. I'd call it charisma.

btw, they were all good-looking but not in an obvious way (no Marlboro man/boy band kinds of looks)

Ugh...an ex boyfriend of mine from years and years ago...Total NPD A**hole but he is an insane chick magnet...of obscene proportions. and he would screw up the minds of these beautiful and intelligent girls over and over again..it makes me sick to see it happen. I still know the guy, he plays in my band..and he is in the process of messing with the head of another girl who he probably messes around on...he left his last girl a wreck...he is creepy and sleazy and has no trouble getting girls...and I am sorta one of the "ones that got away"...and he would literally cry over supposedly missing me over the years.....because I dumped him and would not let him mess with my head..
I used to be on friendly terms with him, but now I barely can bring myself to speak to him.
I would be willing to place money on the notion that he is a textbook Narcicisstic Personality Disorder case...

Whoaaaaa that's sad You'd think the women would recognize such..ickyness but I guess women like to be wooed eh =\

Yeah, I know someone like that. I dated him actually. It just seemed he had hooked up with every girl that he knew.
He was sweet, charming but then within a few weeks just turned cold.
Guys that attract a lot of people may be attractive and charming but they haven't got the best personalities.