My 'love life'

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(1) Become attracted to woman

(2) Try everything in my limited repertoire to get her to notice me

(3) Fail

(4) Find out she dislikes me, is already attached, or probably both

(5) Descend into self-loathing and bitterness

(6) Repeat

To do the same thing over and over and expect a different result is paramount to a definition of insanity, and we as a species are very good at creating results to meet our own expectations. Suggestion: expand your repertoire and ask questions, focus on getting to know them before trying to impress or attract her, and work to expect something other than failure. It might only be a discussion, or a second date to start, but find and define your goals.


M.

I'm only 3 years away from 30 and have never had a serious realationship, partly because alot of people aren't clued in to what aspergers really means, or are simply ignorant. I have however, posted here hoping my luck will change with it being an aspergers forum

i know what you mean, more times than not i have to force myself to like a girl and i dont know why. i think its because girls dont like me

very good. i love this quote

I find many women attractive, looks wise, but personality wise, they are few and far between. It usually takes long time for me to really like and feel (somewhat) connected to a girl.

I hope that Aspie Awareness spreads and people get to be more accepting of us.

We're useful in society; Bill Gates was an Aspie. (Assumed or diagnosed?????)

Hopefully, women will see our usefulness and love us anyhow.

LoL, guess i'm lucky that i dont open up to just anyone then o.O
but when i eventualy like someone, then it's just like that almost : /
but i rarely open my self up to a girl and like them, so far it's only happend, 2 times in my life, lol

first one was my ex, and 2nd one was a classmate, whom i worked alot with <.< (and was about a month ago i told her)
so i kinda kicked myself in the ass to by saying i liked her. Althou i knew she didn't like me back i wanted to say it because i had started liking her, and not confessing, is the same as a storie going untold, and every story deserves to be told to the end ^^

Number 2 might be something you could work on but I'd have to agree with M, that's the basic definition of insanity...unless you can lucidate.

Maybe it's the wrong vibe you give off. I know that's one of my major problems with people in general.

As for love, that is only a thing people can share on a well defined level of regards to eachother's emotions, regards, and attributes as well as attraction on a romantic level.

Anyway, goodluck.

The problem is you're starting with attraction and trying to get her to notice you.

IMO some of the best love comes from people you're not attracted to... at first. You should get to know women that you enjoy being around just as friends, and if a relationship comes from it, well great, if one doesn't, then you've made a friend.