Question involving Aspergers and relationships

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I like someone and he likes me. We've been in a relationship for a while. I've told him about my Aspergers and he doesn't seem to mind but I feel I may have been dishonest and glossed over some things. Is there a way to not gloss over things without sounding like I'm making excuses or insulting myself? And is there a tactful way of actually starting a conversation about it?

Watch Big Bang Theory together. Sheldon and Leonard will give you plenty of opportunities to discuss Asperger and it's effects in daily life.

Okay maybe it'll help if i give a brief description of him?
Personality: Kind, sensitive and understanding. Brave. Honest and I feel I can trust him. An unsual combination of outgoingness and shyness
NT or not? Unsure on this one. He's weird in a nice way- not afraid of breaking th mould.
Intelligence: Yes, and lots of it

Thanks Willard! I'll see if I can find it sometime.

From my experience with myself and my friends, whenever I tell them about AS it usually is a bit of a non-event. Generally they've come to like and trust me for who I am, and if they know me well enough then the traits I have are just characteristics they know and apparently don't mind - and the traits I don't seem to have, I probably don't have at all. So my guess is that if you've been in a relationship with this guy for a while, then he probably knows you well enough already for the AS label to be quite superficial in the grand scheme of things.

Thank you very much Hector. Yeah, when I told him I had asperger's he said "What does that mean?" and I said "well typically..." and listed some of the traits I show. But I was really just giving him the term for things he already knew about. I realised I was just describing something obvious in detail but it was still a relief to get it off my chest.