Why did i end up like this?

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I have had problems talking in general to people about my dating problems. My parents are well aware of the situation, as it brought down to a point of depression where it hurt for me to breathe. It ain't easy when you are only among a few 10th graders that haven't had at least one relationship. If you have ever heard of school of the arts in rochester, NY, its pretty much a "sink or swim" deal, since it is a high-achieving school. Now it seems as if there's no chance of relief. Everytime I see a relationship in the halls, I want to punch a wall, because im so angry that here are people who have a good life, they kiss in public, and yet here i am, another soul still locked in a barrier. I've been waiting for this for 16 years [it will be next month]. I'm at this point where I've tried too hard, and thus im about to give up. There's no hope for me in the dating world. Nobody wants to go out with someone, who girls have considered a "nice guy."

I'm just at the end of my rope, and i'm about to cut it.

I had no girlfriend from 9th to 12th grade. Sucked, but I managed to get through it.

Possibility - since you're at an art school, why not take that energy and transfer it into your artwork. That's what I used to do (albeit with music) when it started getting to me.

I did not have a girlfriend the entire time I was in High School. It does help to focus your energy elsewhere. I transfered it into school work. My first tongue in mouth kiss was my senior year. It was frustrating. I noticed my peers and their various relationships. I to felt the frustration and sometimes did punch walls.

I'm with everybody else is this topic.
I'm 17, (my school situation is that I'm straddling the line between junior and senior), and my dating life can be summed up as follows:
-Virtually nothing.

For some reason I didn't care as much about not having a girlfriend when I was eighteen as I did when I was sixteen, even though I still didn't had any "experience" to show for it - and I still don't, another four years later. It is senseless to think of your school as a dating competition; if you're competing for anything, it's grades. If you get lucky with the right girl in the next couple of years, great. If you don't, you still have the rest of your life ahead of you.

Last edited by Hector on 29 Dec 2008, 1:51 pm, edited 1 time in total.

It doesn't matter if you haven't got a boyfriend or girlfriend in school. You can just have a friend who is a girl or a boy.

I felt that way too, and I did just give up pretty much but then I got grounded from my computer and the only thing I could do was find something else to live for, and that became the girl that I like, and hence one of my obsessions as well.

And I have punched walls multiple times as well from being frustrated by it all.

ahahahaha, you've pissed me of already. Nice going.
So you want a relationship just cause everyoen else has one?
if everyone began to cut their wrists woudl you do it to? just cause everyoen does it? You knwo that some people go on their whole lifes without a partner, and for some later or earlier.
My first relationship was when i was 18 or so. If you're so depressed over not havign a relationship yet, you're a waste, you say you're a "nice guy"? i doubt that, rather "desperate" guy in my eyes.

Best thing you could do is simply focus on your life/education and etc, somepeople meet their partner later on in their life. If you're already going to whine about it now, hell, wonder what kind of person you will be later on -.-

Its people like you that make me wanna stab someone. I know what im looking for, and nobody wants to offer it.

Come and stab me if you want to try it.
You know what you're looking for, but no one has to offer it?

well what if your setting to high standards? But from what i've read thats not the problem, the problem is you just want a girlfriend because almost everyone else has one, so from that logic, i can like i said, conclude that if the others didn't have one, you wouldn't want one either....hey, what do you think girls are? People you show off with?

let me put it like this, as calm as i can do it. no i don't think girls are just a show off for people. in my mind i don't want a girlfriend just because other people have one. It is something that i would like to experience, doing something different from the daily routine that ends up happening every school day. I probably responded like that in the last post because what you posted kinda pissed me off. I apologize. No i don't think women are something you show off, i have more common sense than that. If I had that logic of everyone else has one, then i'd be stuck with someone i never liked and they probably never wanted to see me in the first place. All i wanted to do was at least experience ONE relationship before these years in hs fade away.

I'm 29, and have never had a girlfriend. Despite the irritation, I have never once wanted to stab someone or punch an unsuspecting wall.

You need to calm yourself down and try to get some perspective. Just wanting something doesn't mean that someone else is obligated to give it to you. I can guarantee you, going around looking like you want to punch walls that never did anything to you is not a good way to make chicks like you.

I was a little pissed when i posted that. I've calmed down since. I try to stay as calm as possible when I walk, then again, i'm walking like "the rock" whenever i'm going to classes.

lulz, I walk like the Terminator to my classes.

NOW you atleast explained things about moer detailed and didn't sound so annoying.

To that i can say, that life dosnt go the way we want it to, and like the poster above, look hwo old he is, and he still dosnt have a partner or hasnt had one, the case is different for everyone. If no one likes you, tough luck : /
I've only been in 1 relationship myself, and it's over. There was someone in school i also liked, confessed, got rejected, thats how it goes sadly : /

i'm not the one to talk in this case, but easiest way is simply to be social and meet different people and that way learn/experience stuff, i mean you cant just "love" someone, you usualy knwo them for a longer time, or well yeah, or it does come as "love at first sight" or whatever.




So in short: What you can do is simply just keep your hopes up, and try talking to different girls or meeting girls or something, nothing is going to be handed to you on a silver plate, even if you "just" atleast want one relation in high school.

One thing you could do to win a girl is changing your personality to make yourself more likable. I would not like to spend time with a guy who punches walls and makes fists at people, personally. If you think about what other people like, then you can slowly become that and become a better person.