neuro-typical Vs. neuro-Atypical

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One can't be right when you look at the whole world as a whole but I don't think that a neurotypical with a neuroAtypical can really work as a relationship. Culture, age, career...so many things factor in. But in general, I think that Typical people want Atypical people for the complacency they give. Because they are not so social (now,this is generally speaking), they are not so tempted by other potential mates. But after a while, the Typicals get bored. They want the loyalty but need the intrigue of the socialite . So they cheat. Think about it? Wouldn't you like a warm cuddly that stays home...you always know where they are...and they are there for you when the socialite throws you out in the cold, dark night. Typicals cheat or they just break it off...the worst ones string you along, meet somebody, break it off, get back with you, meet another one, break it off again, and it goes on and on until the Atypical is in sooo much pain, they scream "ENOUGH!" Somebody like this might even marry you and put you through hell for "years". That's why it's best to try to meet someone like yourself or just stay by yourself...at least you'll be free when someone special comes "your way" for a change.
You not alive to cushion the blows for somebody else. If they (Typicals) can't handle lonliness, it's their problem, not yours. That's what their damned 1,500 friends are for. Stick together Aspies!! ! But remember: Being Aspie is sort of like say, being a member of a particular culture, where you date only within the culture but pick who is best for you...like Jewish dating...one wishes a relationship with a fellow Jew but doesn't marry the first one that comes along. That's why Aspies have to organize somehow.

Could you be the Moses of aspies set to lead our people to the promised land?

Despite the sarcasm I think you're probably right and a bit more organization would be a good idea.

why of course.
I don't know a single other aspie in real life and now you say I should only date another aspie.

And I think you generalisized (sp?) NTs and Aspies WAY to much.
Even aspies would cheat, it's not like we are angels.
I have also seen some threads here where a NT is with a AS, and it's the one with AS that causes the problems.

I used to think that other aspies would understand other aspies feelings.
But that's not just that simple.
Being in a relationship, if both partners would lack communication skills, it would end pretty fast. Not saying it's not possible, but there are ups and downs on both sides, I don't see NT or another Aspie being better than the other.

I think you should just be open to the thing with love, and see who you eventualy have feelings for, and go for that person

Eeer, no.

What you are saying is the same as whites should only date whites and blacks should only date blacks.
People date whomever they have feelings for.
Don't give me that hippie thing with we should should stick together and only date people like our selves.

Excuse my aspie-ness but I can't tell if this is a joke or not.

This generalization is too broad for me to elaborate however I could see some significance in why an aspie would probably fair better with an NT since NTs are "supposedly" more outgoing and better social skills. Even then, it would depend on that NT on what they found attractive about that aspie.

On the whole however, I don't think relationships work as perfectly as they "should".

Never trust an NT though, even if they are nice.

I agree with the OP 100%.