So I'm a female....

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And I think I have Aspergers.

Consequently, I manage to f**k it up with every guy in the entire universe.

The latest offence I have committed is falling for this guy who I really like. He's intelligent, funny, easy to talk to (most of the time) and very well read.

So, to cut a very long story short, we kissed and I thought he liked me.

Then he told me he wasn't interested and that I should f**k off.

Maybe I'm alone in this but my poor little brain went "owwwww stop hurting me"

It got even worse when he rang the cops and told them I'd been harassing him (I rang him like, twice)

So they rang me, and I gave my side of the story and they were like "oh ok then bye"

Now I just don't know what to do. Part of me wants to believe it was alcohol talking when he said the last thing to me, but I just don't know. I *think* I mentioned to him at one point that I thought I might have Asperger's, which you'd think would mean he'd be a bit kinder to my strangeness, but it seems to have served in the opposite direction.

All help is GREATLY, DESPERATELY appreciated.

You may need to try to be more actively aware of people's boundaries and personal space.

sadly my advise is to move on. Once you leave a bad impression on a NT its hard to recover, plus he doesn't seem like the understanding type. Aspie choices in partners is unfortunately small.

Yes I know my advice is easier said then done, and I fall under the "insensative/tactless" aspie type. But as I said your choices are more limited. Take it from me, do not chase after a person that rejects you. no good comes of it. Move on, and keep trying until you find a guy that can tolerate, or hopefully, like your aspie traits.

Aspie women have alot of desireable features, so just learn a few tricks and you should be fine

there's plenty more where that came from..doesn't sound like there's anything more between the two of you. Learn the lessons, and on to the next one...men are like buses, there's always another one coming along...

Hi and welcome to WP...

Thanks guys.

From what I can actually gather from what he's told me, he seems to have quite a like of those with aspie traits - of the famous variety, so what I can still hope is that maybe time can heal.

But I'm not completely stupid. I realise that in the scheme of things, I managed to mess things up quite royally, so I'm not expecting anything. What really frustrates me is that I wasn't expecting anything in the first place, I didn't even like him. It was only him that came to me and said "I like you", so I was only acting off that.

We shall see. In the meantime, where's that bus?

Welcome to WP. I'm a male with AS and I have had same type of things happen. It can be frustrating. This one women I was friends with shared a deep, passionate kiss one night. I felt and thought we were starting to be more then friends. The next day she tells me "Ken, I know I kissed you on the mouth, but I did not mean it that way." I was like "well, what does it mean when you kiss a guy like that?" NTs seem to send out alot of mixed signals as part of the "game" people play to see if they like each other. I wish people would just be honest with each other.

I think if someone calls the cops on you then you haven't really got a chance with them realistically. Ok if you are an old drunken couple maybe but not this.

I don't know what you did wrong exactly, if you really only called him a couple of times it seems an odd reaction. Ok he might feel it is bit needy, but it is also wasting police time. They are not there to sort out people's relationships.

Why do want someone who would do this?

Someone giving you the cold shoulder for being an aspie?...*sigh* I...I know how that feel's too well....

Really, your not alone...(don't ask...at least it ended for me now, well...pretty much)

That dude sounds like a right old w*ker to me. I would leve him anyways if I was you.