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19 Feb 2009, 8:06 pm
19 Feb 2009, 8:22 pm
I also have problems with this, and I've made an ass out of myself more than once because of it. Now, I am hesitant to pursue an interest, and normally wait for her to make the first move/s, because that way I am less likely to feel like a fool. Cowardly? Yes, somewhat, but it is what works for me. 
19 Feb 2009, 8:57 pm
I say when it doubt, just ask. 
It doesn't make you an idiot, it makes you proactive.
19 Feb 2009, 9:01 pm
CelticGoddess wrote:
I say when it doubt, just ask. It doesn't make you an idiot, it makes you proactive.
It doesn't make you an idiot, it makes you proactive.*in a steriotypically nasally voice* "hey miss, are you flirting with me?"
That is the most pragmatic way to go however it might get awkward and cause the lady to distance herself emotionally thus putting a relationship in jeopardy.
19 Feb 2009, 9:01 pm
CelticGoddess wrote:
I say when it doubt, just ask. It doesn't make you an idiot, it makes you proactive.
Ask what exactly? How would you word it?
It doesn't make you an idiot, it makes you proactive.19 Feb 2009, 9:07 pm
I vote for humour over harshness. "So are you always this flirty or is today my lucky day?" Corny? Yes. But, it doesn't put anyone in an uncomfortable position. If she/he is shocked that you think they're flirting, you can easily smile and say you were just joking and everyone is let off the hook. If she/he was flirting, they'll most likely own up to it. Either way, you have an answer. It's worked for me.
19 Feb 2009, 9:45 pm
CelticGoddess wrote:
I say when it doubt, just ask. It doesn't make you an idiot, it makes you proactive.
It doesn't make you an idiot, it makes you proactive.I agree. Actually, that idea was part of my original response. I deleted it because I was going to add it to the end, then forgot.
As I get older, I'm getting better at saying what I want to say. When I was in my late teens/early twenties, there just seemed like there was so much at stake that it made me very tense. Now, I just don't give a s**t.
20 Feb 2009, 12:10 am
CelticGoddess wrote:
I vote for humour over harshness. "So are you always this flirty or is today my lucky day?" Corny? Yes. But, it doesn't put anyone in an uncomfortable position. If she/he is shocked that you think they're flirting, you can easily smile and say you were just joking and everyone is let off the hook. If she/he was flirting, they'll most likely own up to it. Either way, you have an answer. It's worked for me.
I agree with this. It's a good way to test the waters. I've talked to a guy in the past who used humor in such a way. It made him seem more confident to me than if he would have just asked me if I liked him. Also, if I did flirt with him, he'd find a way to jokingly tease me or deny me and it made him seem like more of a challenge, as well as a fun person to talk to.
20 Feb 2009, 9:15 am
jawbrodt wrote:
CelticGoddess wrote:
I say when it doubt, just ask. It doesn't make you an idiot, it makes you proactive.
It doesn't make you an idiot, it makes you proactive.I agree. Actually, that idea was part of my original response. I deleted it because I was going to add it to the end, then forgot.
As I get older, I'm getting better at saying what I want to say. When I was in my late teens/early twenties, there just seemed like there was so much at stake that it made me very tense. Now, I just don't give a sh**.
I think age has a lot to do with it. When I was in my teens/early 20's it was harder. By the time you've made your way through the world and you get to your 30's, you're probably more comfortable in your own skin or at least have a different perspective on what you want/don't want in your life. So you're willing to take risks o find out if this will work or not because you don't want to waste your time or anyone elses. hmm...does that make sense?
20 Feb 2009, 3:34 pm
CelticGoddess wrote:
I vote for humour over harshness. "So are you always this flirty or is today my lucky day?" Corny? Yes. But, it doesn't put anyone in an uncomfortable position. If she/he is shocked that you think they're flirting, you can easily smile and say you were just joking and everyone is let off the hook. If she/he was flirting, they'll most likely own up to it. Either way, you have an answer. It's worked for me.
Tried that one today one a girl who was constentl comlimenting me. the thing is that humor leads to humor. She just could be very friendly and emotionally needy.
after i sai that she seemed to be all over me even leaning on my shoulders when we were using the same computer.
20 Feb 2009, 4:52 pm
ARandomPerson wrote:
CelticGoddess wrote:
I vote for humour over harshness. "So are you always this flirty or is today my lucky day?" Corny? Yes. But, it doesn't put anyone in an uncomfortable position. If she/he is shocked that you think they're flirting, you can easily smile and say you were just joking and everyone is let off the hook. If she/he was flirting, they'll most likely own up to it. Either way, you have an answer. It's worked for me.
Tried that one today one a girl who was constentl comlimenting me. the thing is that humor leads to humor. She just could be very friendly and emotionally needy.
after i sai that she seemed to be all over me even leaning on my shoulders when we were using the same computer.
How old is she? She definitely seems interested to me.
20 Feb 2009, 5:47 pm
CelticGoddess wrote:
ARandomPerson wrote:
CelticGoddess wrote:
I vote for humour over harshness. "So are you always this flirty or is today my lucky day?" Corny? Yes. But, it doesn't put anyone in an uncomfortable position. If she/he is shocked that you think they're flirting, you can easily smile and say you were just joking and everyone is let off the hook. If she/he was flirting, they'll most likely own up to it. Either way, you have an answer. It's worked for me.
Tried that one today one a girl who was constentl comlimenting me. the thing is that humor leads to humor. She just could be very friendly and emotionally needy.
after i sai that she seemed to be all over me even leaning on my shoulders when we were using the same computer.
How old is she? She definitely seems interested to me.
Agreed. Those would seem to be some of those obvious signals us Aspie guys miss, either due to just not knowing what to look for, or from having been burned in the past. It doesn't mean she's totally serious about it, but it's a strong indicator that something's up.
20 Feb 2009, 7:13 pm
billsmithglendale wrote:
CelticGoddess wrote:
ARandomPerson wrote:
CelticGoddess wrote:
I vote for humour over harshness. "So are you always this flirty or is today my lucky day?" Corny? Yes. But, it doesn't put anyone in an uncomfortable position. If she/he is shocked that you think they're flirting, you can easily smile and say you were just joking and everyone is let off the hook. If she/he was flirting, they'll most likely own up to it. Either way, you have an answer. It's worked for me.
Tried that one today one a girl who was constentl comlimenting me. the thing is that humor leads to humor. She just could be very friendly and emotionally needy.
after i sai that she seemed to be all over me even leaning on my shoulders when we were using the same computer.
How old is she? She definitely seems interested to me.
Agreed. Those would seem to be some of those obvious signals us Aspie guys miss, either due to just not knowing what to look for, or from having been burned in the past. It doesn't mean she's totally serious about it, but it's a strong indicator that something's up.
To me this one looks completely ludic... she is about a year younger and already has a bf.
20 Feb 2009, 7:14 pm
billsmithglendale wrote:
CelticGoddess wrote:
ARandomPerson wrote:
CelticGoddess wrote:
I vote for humour over harshness. "So are you always this flirty or is today my lucky day?" Corny? Yes. But, it doesn't put anyone in an uncomfortable position. If she/he is shocked that you think they're flirting, you can easily smile and say you were just joking and everyone is let off the hook. If she/he was flirting, they'll most likely own up to it. Either way, you have an answer. It's worked for me.
Tried that one today one a girl who was constentl comlimenting me. the thing is that humor leads to humor. She just could be very friendly and emotionally needy.
after i sai that she seemed to be all over me even leaning on my shoulders when we were using the same computer.
How old is she? She definitely seems interested to me.
Agreed. Those would seem to be some of those obvious signals us Aspie guys miss, either due to just not knowing what to look for, or from having been burned in the past. It doesn't mean she's totally serious about it, but it's a strong indicator that something's up.
To me this one looks completely ludic... she is about a year younger and already has a bf.
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