....and so she invaded my bathroom while I was showering...

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Have you ever knew someone who always keeps comparing his/her body with yours in front of the opposite gender?

There's that co-worker who always keeps comparing his wide shoulders/bone width/muscly chest to my obviously skinny body during lunch breaks or extracurricular events in front of these girls who happen to always keep talking about body/weight, weight and body and ...ummm body and weight!. Sometimes even in front of other people.

I don't know why he's always picking me as a model of comparison, most probably it's a way of indirect boasting, maybe I should tell him to pick that hulk over there instead ?
But I can't win this one, If I tell him to stop then they'll see me as weird and insecure and If I say no word then they'll also think I am weird and insecure. I usually counter with humor and he doesn't seem want to understand ...but till when he's gonna keep doing this?

Wow. I thought the concept of looking better by comparison was a joke. Just try to avoid him? Sounds an awkward scene to be at.

He sounds like:

A) A hater
B) socially ret*d
C) A and B

If it's any consolation, something so obvious like he is pulling does not escape female scrutiny, and not in the positive way. They'll spot his skill deficit or hating for what it is -- it actually weakens him in their eyes to stoop to that level, and it makes him look like a conceited jerk.

A little bit of rancid butter on his seat or chair might humble this guy a bit.

The underlying issue is probably nothing to do with you or your physique, it's probably more relating to either (a) his own insecurities, so he's got to talk himself up in comparison to you, because he's trying to make himself the dominant Alpha male in your working relationship or (b) he's talking himself up in front of women because he finds one or more of them attractive, again an Alpha male issue, or it could just be that he maybe (c) feels a bit awkward sitting in the middle of all the girly banter about weight and looks, and wants to emphasis your buddy-buddy guys in this together, he's comparing himself to you, because he doesn't want to be compared to a girl.

Try not to let it get to you.

Or alternatively, if you can stomach it, since he obviously thinks it's so important, flatter his ego and reassure him a bit, so he doesn't find you so threatening, pay a compliment, ask what work out techniques he uses, or what weights he uses or whatever, make small talk about it.

Good God... why are there so many idiots at your job? Do any of your co-workers have a maturity level higher than a 7th-grader? I'd probably be looking for a new job at this point...

(And don't forget to lock your bathroom door next time. )

whatever, so what happened after she saw you in the shower?

Geez!!

Get another job, tell him to stop and if he doesn't report him...if you can because this is a form of harassment.

Also, it seems this is only making him look worse.

I think its love LPP, he knows what you like