Tired of seeing them

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Every other day I have classes with these two girls that I like a lot, there's the one I liked for a year, and there's the one I've started liking recently that I was talking about with that Facebook thing.

Basically I am tired of seeing what I can't have, and then seeing other guys talk to them like it was nothing. Like the girl I've liked for a year was talking with this guy I knew from elementary school and he kept touching her hand and stuff. I used to be able to talk to her but now I can't because it feels like I just get blown off. It makes me so jealous. Beautiful women are so intimidating to me for some reason. I'm tired of having what I can't have kind of waved in my face like that.

I'm just really stressed out right now about it all. Anyone else tired of it though?

^^ Darn, I do not believe that you require to feel too unhappy about the ladies j. I believe there is a happy lady (a magical friend also, I believe one of my only human friends as of the moment) that I believe I may have feelings for, however I do not believe that I may have a relationship (relationships confuse me a large amount, and I do not believe I am entirely certain what these feelings consist of) with the happy lady. For a large amount of time I believe she was in a happy relationship with a boy, and I believe that felt not very nice for me, however she was happy and I was happy for that. Now that has ended, however I would not wish to inform the lady of my happy feelings as that would be bad for the lady as I believe she has other happy friends and I believe I am not very skilled at being within groups of humans and I would not wish to stop her being happy with her friends. ^^ Alas, as long as she is happies, that is quite alright (in spite of hurts for me).^^ Ultimately, I but think of that, and also that I have many reasons to be happy and do not require a relationship as such. I am very sorry if I have been silly.

it's quite alright Toma, i feel kinda the same way, i'd let the girl i love go away if it means she'd be happier with someone else...

damn i felt like that in high school every day. the pretty girls will be melting in front of dudes who are like touching them, flirting, and they are just ignoring you like you do not even exist. just life with asperger's you gotta suck it up and move on.

I can agree with you there. There use to be a girl I was obsessed over and I was sick of seeing her because she was like a tease to me. However, it turns out she's an unpleasant person and I like her no more.

These are normal feelings for your age. I've posted a lot about this (you can do a search if you really care to read what I've said), but the short version is that life sucks for most guys in their teens going into early 20s. After that, life evens out. Right now, a small group of guys, mostly the ones that are physically mature early in life, get a lot (but not all) of the girls. Later on, you'll be mature too, and they'll be old-looking and bald. Meanwhile, as they age, women lose their advantage and demand, especially the closer they get to 30. By the time you are 30, assuming you have a good job and take care of yourself and dress decently, the ones who are rejecting you now will be practically begging to marry you.

So make yourself happy now, be a good student, work on getting a good job and finding hobbies that make you happy. Go make friends and meet other people. I promise the girls will come -- it's just nature. I used to be in the same situation as you, with as much if not more hate in my heart for the guys who got it all, and the women who were teases, and believe me, it worked out fine. Several times now I've had 2 girls going at once as my GFs, using them both.

Just find a way to be happy now -- women hate sullen, pissed off guys who feel like losers. They are attracted to winners and guys who seem happy.

Aw, now I'm really feeling it, the one I've liked for a year brought in that guy and she's sitting on his lap and getting close to him and I can feel a small pit in my stomach.

Liking people you can't have is always frustrating.

It makes me jealous, too. I don't really know how to get over it... except to try and be better than them, make ones self better.

For this very reason, I've developed a kind of affection for girls with low self-esteem. I know I have a lot of love to give, I just can't give it (properly).

y'know i kinda think everytime i see this topic title, is "them" supposed to be bad? <.< Hrm...