Finding dates/interest on campus

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I'm a maths student who likes girls. However, every girl I know and like who shares classes with me is taken. I most likely wouldn't risk it with them anyway. So I have to move on to girls who I don't share classes with, having never really done this before (I say "really" because I once went on what I thought was an awful date but was supposed to be something more innocent). This is proving to be incredibly complicated; every time I find someone fairly interesting, I hardly see them around never mind in any convenient one-on-one situation. I tried to fit into a few societies but found myself consistently less interested in the societies themselves than in the prospect of meeting girls so that never worked out. So, any tips?

Walk around campus and talk to women.

Get numbers or e-mails.

Contact the girls and let them know about the party next weekend. Invite them to go.

Or

Join clubs and do sports. These will give access to many women.

Or

Hit the bar scene.

No, I don't live on campus. It's about an hour's commute for me.

In college, breakups happen all the time. Just because a girl is taken now, doesn't mean she won't be single the next day. As a matter of a fact, I say it's likely every girl in college goes through... ten boyfriends on average. Lol.

Pick a few girls, pay attention to their relationship status a bit, and make your move at the right time.

- D

What I read in that was that I would get numbers and e-mails from asking the girls themselves rather than from just asking a friend or nicking them off Facebook. The latter is often read as an infringement on personal space and may kill whatever interest there may possibly have been.

The question of when to ask for a number I find quite difficult. I once got a girl's number just from the first conversation, but I'm not sure how comfortable most people are with that. Certainly if I could ask for a number after a good first impression things would be somewhat more straightforward than I've currently made them out to be.

Well that's a common enough practice. I suppose that's just one way to reject someone, albeit an impolite way. Win some, lose some. Or else would it have been better to leave it to more than one conversation?

I just wait for opportunities to fall into my lap...they come along once in a while, though I horribly horribly botched the last one.

Yeah, I'm in college too. There really aren't too many single people here. XD It does suck.

Take advantage of MySpace, and Facebook--Facebook in particular because it's easier to search for students at your college with similar interests. Just become friends with someone, even if they're taken. See if anything develops. Maybe you'll find you don't really like being around her that much as a person.

I've been quite invite-shy on Facebook, but I might change my ways now.

try going on a free internet dating site, like plentyoffish. I have known people who have had this work. There are lots of girls around college age there, just have a good profile pic that clearly shows your face, and message lots of girls. You will get dates guaranteed.