Strange Situation...

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Here we go again. But it's a bit different this time.

The guy I'm with was engaged to someone several years ago. The girl passed away during the engagement, after a fatal car accident. I actually remember when it happened. We were nothing more than co-workers at the time, but he did talk to me about it, and he was obviously devastated. I actually didn't know that he was engaged to her until a few months ago.

Well, he confided in a friend of ours about how he feels that he's been a bad boyfriend ever since the incident. I have never experienced anything like that, and I can only imagine what it must be like for him. He used to talk to me about it here and there, but since we've gotten *together* the subject hasn't come up at all.

I don't want him to feel awkward about our relationship because of it. I want him to know that he doesn't need to be afraid to talk about it around me. I'm afraid he thinks that it'll make me feel awkward, and it wouldn't in the least. I fully understand and accept that he would still be with her, and I'm sure that he misses her a lot. However, I don't want to tell him these things by bringing up such an emotional subject... but he's been acting weird, and I wonder if this has something to do with it. I don't want him to feel weird about having feelings for someone else, which is more or less what he was telling our friend.

I plan on waiting until he brings it up, but I'm afraid that if it never happens our relationship won't reach it's full potential.

Thoughts?

i think ur right in waiting for him to bring it up.

He probably does feel awkward and a part of him is always gonna miss her but in a way he needs to focus on the now on you.

Wait until the time is right and speak to him then maybe over a nice meal candle lit home dinner.