what is a perfect time?

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I asked this girl out and she gave me her phone number. I want to take her to the pool sometime, but I don't know the right time. can somebody help me

call anytime, and ask her what would be a good time for swimming

Some girls can be rather put off by an invitation to go swimming, especially if it's a first date type thing. She might think you're just trying to see her in as few clothes as possible as quickly as possible!

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very true i was gonna comment on that, but ... im evil

taking a girl out to a "original and surprising" place is a mistake ive done a lot, and something that MAY be an aspie trait. since we dont fit in, we dont wanna go to the normal places, and so we "think new"

dont

take her to a nice cafe or something, buy her a cup of tea. we "weirdos" simply _must_ follow some of the "NT rules" if we want to hang with them

Find out what food she likes and the movies she wants to see. Both places are good for a date.

Movies aren't too great though, for a date, 'cause throughout the entire movie you can't talk. And as a result you know as much about the other as when you first went out/met each other.
Though if you tag 'getting a drink/getting some coffee or something' afterward, you'll be able to watch the movie and use that same movie to engage in conversation when you go and have something to drink someplace.

yea,m its kinda hard to talk to a girl when you have nothing to talk about. i especially had dry females who never say a word and expect you to say everything.

"where you from?"
"Atalanta"
"Oh" "Uhhh.....whats your name?"
"Brianna"
"Oh" "Uhhhh......how old are you"

O hate that, i stop talking to dry girls like that ....i dont care if tehy are shy, because I cant keep feeling like im bugging her. So try to do something tio get her to open up. if she never opens up id ont know whatv to tell you..


she's dry!! lol

I'd say give her a call in the early evening some night, and ask her to do something 2 or 3 days after that.

You can ask her if there's anything in particular that she wants to do, but if she doesn't have any ideas, you'll have to suggest something. If she says she wants to go swimming, go for it (often, here in CA, people go to the beach for casual dates).

3 days!

Then call her and don't invite her to anything, just talk about the pool and what does she does there and when does she goes... the rest of what you have to talk about yourselves will come up naturally

IF IT DOESN'T don't call her for a new date cause it will be awkwardly silent (the first talk is the time where she can show her interest in knowing you better, if she doesn't she will never do so... same to you).

IF SHE DOES then call her 2 days later asking her to go drink a coffee or if you find it scary to talk to her then invite her to the movies (please an interesting one, so you guys have something to talk about after until you get comfortable).

this off course if in the first calling she doesn't take the initiative and invite you.

I would go with this. I'd say going to the pool is a bit iffy for a first date situation. What are you going to do anyway, synchronise swim? You may as well not be there with her unless you're taking loads of people.

Come to think of it, going with a lot of people would be a touch more acceptable, but the whole 'seeing you in a bikini' thing is still probably not going to be kosher for a first date.