Cuddling and the male gender

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Since there is no longer a male forum in the age and gender related section of this website I am going to advertise this community here (and of course ask for construcive input):

http://community.livejournal.com/male_cuddlers/profile

Ever hear of Cuddle Parties?

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hmmm... not my thing, i cant stand being intamate, or close to people, and it sucks when you are trying to date, I just cant do it, even a kiss or hug hurts...

I have been in one relationship and I found I love to be close.... it reassures me.

Apparently thats odd for a guy.

I can handle hugs from my BF ( love them from him) and can handle some hugs from other people ( as in greeting close friends) in some quantities... but parties of hugging??? NO. That would be creepy. Maybe if everyone was really drunk--- but then it might still be creepy because it would be a bunch of sloppy huggy drunk people---YUCK!

Eh, more a preference of the minority than a sign of being "odd." At least from how people talk about it, it may not be all that much of a minority.

Besides, with the "tough guy" image business, how many average guys are going to freely admit to it if they do like it?

Cuddle parties sound quite gross too me.

I think the idea of men not wanting to cuddle is more of one of those stereotypes - except this is one that men try to make reality. Just like the one where men don't cry.

I become a statue and start searching for an escape in case I'm hugged out of the blue. However, when the person has my acceptance to hug or I initiate it myself, it's really enjoyable. Actually, I'm in need of a hug most of the time.

OKAY! YEAH! SO NONE OF YOU ARE GETTIN' INVITED TO MY CUDDLE PARTY... HOW'S THAT!


I wouldn't go to a cuddle part either. A friend mentioned to me something about cuddle parties once and I had never heard of them.
I'm not sure why she mentioned them to me... or, rather asked me if I had heard about them.

She would never cuddle with me, so looking back... that was kind of an odd subject to bring up. Unless she just wondered if anyone had ever heard of them.

After our talk, I went online and looked them up and found the website I linked.

I'd certainly cuddle with her, or anyone else I felt comfortable with. There doesn't have to be sex involved for it to be enjoyable.

All I have for now though is my body pillow and Bartholomew the stuffed dog... well, actually I don't cuddle with Bartholomew... he just hangs around for emotional support, not physical support.

I wouldn't mind cuddling with girls but I wouldn't be very comfortable cuddling guys.

I'm pretty hands-off. I don't like people touching me, and don't touch others. If someone touches me without my anticipating it, I usually flinch. If I'm sitting next to someone and any part of them is up against me, I'll shrink away. Guys touch each other a fair amount, usually with a hand on the shoulder, which I can tolerate but don't reciprocate. Once in a while, I'll force myself to, just so I don't seem so aloof.

I can tolerate handshakes fine, and I actually love to cuddle up with a girl, but I have to know her/be dating her.

Actually, I hug a lot of people, even if I don't know them well... I guess it's my way of getting it over with.. or something.. it being starting communication...
Once I've given someong a hug I usually feel more comfortable, which for me is a good thing...
Friends of mine sometimes just hug people they don't know... I did that once, but that's only because the person sitting opposite of me on the train really needed a hug....
I also occasionally have a "free hug" session with friends... just go stand in a city with a sign sayiong Free Hugs, but most people don't hug back, because they think it's weird....

Usually, I don't hug people I don't know, for the simple reason that some people might not like it at all.... I only hug people if they want to. If I want to give someone a hug, I'll always ask if they want one first...

i love hugs, i am a very huggy person hugs are good for you!

so long as they are good firm hugs and not horrible sensory-issue-inducing loose hugs, eeerrrrrrggh

I'm like that with most touch, i can be a very touchy feely person so long as the touching and feeling is firm and definite and predictable. when people touch gently it just makes my skin crawl and i have to spend ages rubbing and scratching at where they touched me to make the feeling go away! even worse, i had a friend who would suddenly pat me on the shoulder or back, it made me jump a mile and i hated it

I live in the South ( that would be the former Confederacy of States: now reluctantly,U.S. of A.) everybody hugs everybody, all the time; it's a hug-a-thon,sugar. I just stiffen up and say," Yo, back up off the protein, right now" " Don't touch the protein!" etc.

OH, P.S.---may I please borrow WTF man? I'm in love...

i love to cuddle.