How to make more friends on WP

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No, seriously, I love how you ...**boom* say the truth like blowing a bomb. You don't sugarcoat.

LePetitPrince is dead, may he RIP with his 72 virgin girls in heaven , ...oh wait , he was atheist, he will be toasted.

I am his evil twin.

Well I don't want to come across as an a***hole as its not a good look, so now days i've grown up and only give blunt advice when I think it will help the person.

Did your account get banned or something? Why?

You are now a better person then.



Short story, it doesn't matter.

I've been a member here for a month and a half, and I haven't managed to make any friends. I've literally gotten one PM, and that was from a moderator, telling me of a change I need to make with a signature. I suppose it would probably be good for me to make friends with some people who have similar issues, though my main reason for coming to the site is to get information and gain insight. It probably doesn't help me that I never make use of the chat feature, but the fact is, I don't do good chat. I have lousy motor skills, I type slowly, and I'm too long winded in all written media. Thus, if I were to make an effort to join in the chat, I'd probably make things worse for myself.
Like I said, it would be nice if I could make some friends here at some point. For now, I'm happy to maintain my low profile here, and to continue visiting the sight for the information and insight I take away.

I guess I don't really have any specific "friends" on here, but I also haven't been here all that long. It takes me a long time to get used to people and stuff. I don't like the idea of suddenly "deciding" to be friends with somebody. It doesn't make sense to just go "hey, you want to be friends?" and suddenly be friends with somebody. Then you end up with awkward obligations if you don't really mesh with them. I don't really PM people unless I have something specific to say that I don't want to say in the open forum.
I don't usually chat via IM much at all.. I used to spend a lot of time on SL, but I haven't so much lately. I guess I don't usually want to have to immediately reply to things.. I always feel stupid, so I prefer to think about what I'm saying first.
I think that if you're going to PM somebody, it's a good idea to do it for a reason, but I just don't know how to really talk to people, I guess. Or maybe that's more of a small-talk issue.

I'd say that among Christians, those who are specifically white Anglo-Saxon Protestant, heterosexual males would be a rather small minority. I think more than half of Christians are women anyways; there was a note on the WEC website about how single Christian men are actually pretty rare, while there are lots of single Christian women. It must be a very small percentage that are ALL of those things that you listed..

... and for myself, I think that is part of what makes WP's overall dynamic actually work. We can each be as friendly as we are willing and able to be at any given moment without having to fear overwhelming demands then being placed upon us, and we can accept the same from others without imposing anything upon them. Old guys like me can occasionally talk with younger folks (or vice-versa) without anyone feeling stared at or hit upon, and anybody can take a break or go to lunch or whatever else at any time of his or her own choosing without someone else feeling abandoned.

Even in occasional moments of tension, WP is always a great place, eh?!

Bit off-topic, just checking got message!

A month and a half isn't very long, and you've only made 49 posts..
From what I can tell, if aspies make friends, it's almost always either very slowly, or too quickly for them to actually be friends.


True true!
And 'cause when you screw up how you say something, people actually listen when you go "no no, that wasn't what I meant, I meant ______"! Whereas anywhere else, even if they seemed to be listening when you tried to correct yourself, it'd just be because they were faking it.

I'll reply to any pms or emails but can't talk about anime, etc! I'm a Christian but don't have to talk about that, if you really don't want to!

Yes, yes! I have spent a *lot* time on different forums over the past several years, and not one of them has ever even come close to having what I experience here. For the first time in my life, I can just be myself amidst some very genuine people!

The whole reason I joined Wrong Planet was to understand myself and make friends here.

Making friends to quickly is very dangerous. A few people that I know got too close too quickly, so when they reached their first disagreement they didn't know how to handle it and............snap!! Their friendship broke like a twig.

I came here to meet people and make friends. I've never joined a discussion panel like this before, and I feel rather comfortable so I'll jump in and PM a few of you.

If anybody wants to pm or email me, they're welcome to!

I doubt it has to do with you not being as intelligent as others, I think it has more to do with you having different interests... and the way to make friends on here if you want is probably by just reading topics, find someone who seems interesting to you, and just send them a PM. If you creep them out or if you become a burden to them, they probably just won't bother replying, we social ret*ds are easy that way

You can PM me if you want. So can anyone else, by the way.
I probably sound like a b***h in some of the topics, lol, but in person-to-person contact I'm not harsh at all, really.

We'll I sure did and no repsonse. *sighs*

What gives?


And you said you'll reply to any PM? Yeah right.

The friendship just ending quickly is really one of the best possible scenarios of making friends too quickly.. A lot of times you end up getting taken advantage of.

There are actually a lot of people on WP that I like a lot, but I don't end up PMing all that much. I think it's because I'm just not good enough at keeping a conversation going, I get nervous and stuff. I like to respond to things in the forum, and get to know people that way. Usually I send PMs if there's some reason that I feel like I shouldn't say something in the forum, and then I just PM someone to say that particular thing. I don't know if other people feel the same way, but a lot of the other people who regularly post, I feel like I know fairly well, even if I haven't PMed them or only have once or a couple of times.. It seems to me like some other people know me pretty well, enough to kinda predict me.. I'm not totally sure if that's 'cause I post so much, or just because we think kinda similarly to begin with.

I don't have friends on here. In fact, how would you really have friends on a forum? What would you do together? I can see having people who share your ideas and views, but the concept of "forum friends" kinda puzzles me.