"Don't be so serious all the time."

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exactly

People tell me this all the time and when I dont act serious they tell me to grow up and act mature!! People need to make up their minds. I usually act one or the other but never really in between.

This happens to me quite a lot however i try not to take notice at all really.

Why it does not annoy me that much, I sometimes get the same feeling. I usually say things like "Well, I am like that. It saddens me that I appear boring to you, and that I can't make my company more pleasurable for you. It has nothing to do with you. Maybe you'd understand if you'd consider the following: If every thought in your head is as loud as other people speaking, and you have to think tens of thousands of thoughts at the same time, I am sure you'd try to stay silent most of the time as well!"
Most people don't know what to say to this and leave me alone, either because they think I am insane or are guilt-ridden.

I get the serious/quiet thing too. It gets even more annoying at work because I'm trying to be outgoing, I didnt mind it the first couple of months because I was new and they must have assumed i was just shy. but now Ive been working there for many months and i'm still not talking and joking about they think i'm clinicaly depressed.

Well I've gotten that before...if it seems the person who says it has good intentions and is actually trying to cheer me up I am not rude or anything, even if I am not particularly 'serious' sometimes my facial expression probably looks like it. So then I usually try and socialize some, as it seems people like that also seem to have an underlying goal of being friendly to.

But if people say it to criticize then I can get rather bent out of shape about it.......much like if someone tells me to calm down when I am calm, well after that I'm not going to be calm.

I alternately get criticized for talking too little or talking too much. I remember being a kid and alternately being described as "shy" or "a chatterbox" depending on my mood. I get criticized for being "too serious/emotional" on occasion.

At this point, I'm trying to make friends with people who won't be put off by this aspect of my personality. I get really self-conscious when people get freaked out and tell me to put the brakes on my "intensity". I tend to get along best with other apparently intense people.

Ugh. My extroverted brother was recently in town and a comment he made caused me to "shut down" emotionally since there were young children nearby. He then proceeded to tell me to stop being so grumpy and proceeded to poke me in the ribs, shove his fist in my back and punch my shoulder repeatedly. Did I mention how I HATE being touched?

I didn't say anything because the only words I would have said cannot be repeated here.

Yes I also get told this a lot. People always comment all over forums and social networks and stuff and even in reality that I need to stop being so serious, but I don't think I am? I'm just being me.

I'm not always serious. If people are joking around and laughing, I laugh aswell, even if I don't think it's that funny. I just laugh along with them anyway, just to join in.

I get that a lot, yes.

I get the opposite. "Stop speaking out so much!" "You need to be more serious!" etc.

My reaction is usually something along the lines of "Nyeh" since most people don't know how to respond to that, and it's funny since they're telling me to be more serious so I just respond with a joke that makes people laugh anyway. Especially fun to do in school, since I have a tendency to raise my hand and ask sarcastic questions just because it's funny.

Not like I can't be serious. I don't really say any jokes if at a formal occasion like a funeral, or if I'm around people I don't know well, me being an introvert and all.

Some people seem to think I'm too serious as well... or at least that I need to take jokes better.

And they're probably right.

The annoying part is because I speak fast... people always assume I'm scared of them or nervous.

I get asked why I am so depressed all the time, and why I don't smile much. One girl I used to know would annoyingly tell me "Smile, outofplace" all the time. Having to explain that I am neither happy nor sad all the time really gets on my nerves. Fortunately, I have worked with the same people for long enough now that I almost never get asked about it anymore. Still, I do come across this way to new people all the time, even though I have been largely able to eliminate my avoidant tendencies. I try to be outgoing to counteract this, but nothing I do can change the fact that I am different.

This was exactly what I thought when I read the thread title. I also get "whats wrong? you look so sad/angry/bored" a lot. How to explain that they are boring and that makes me sad and I just don't have the desire to put on a fake face all the time plagues me. SO I just say nothing and think it really loud in my head instead.

Oh yes I get those things too. I can't even take jokes because I take them serious, and sometimes I don't even know when people are joking. I've been told "Chill out, it's just a joke" or "Why are you so serious?" or "You're dumb,"

Other things I've been told are:

"You're so quiet, why?"
"You're so random at times"
"You're rare"
"You're so weird"
"Don't be shy, I'm not gonna bite you"
"Don't you know how to smile? You're so serious like a cold stone"
"You always look sad"
"Are you okay?"

I know how it is, it's so annoying. I don't even have the guts to correct them or punch them.