Would this be acceptable or "creepy"?

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I have recently found a website of a guy I used to know when I was younger. Back then I was a child and he was already adult, and we visited the same hobby writer's group. I really liked him (in a pure friendship way, obviously). Then the group ended and we lost contact. I always regretted that. Now I'm considering writing to him, like "hey I found your website, how have you been blah blah", just trying to renew the contact.

Would that be acceptable or would he find it creepy? I mean, it's been at least 5 years since we last saw each other, and I don't even know if he would care to hear of me again.

Give it a go! He might find it creepy, sure, but what does it matter? It's over the internet and you'll never have to see him again anyway. If he doesn't reply it's probably because he's just a mean person anyway; if he does, BAM, friendship connection

Hello!! ! You're a woman, of course he'd like to hear from you ! !!

Stereotypes, yay!

Might as well give it a try. You have nothing to lose. U:

If only it was that easy! You guys always tend to overestimate the benefits we get for having boobies.

not creepy at all. do not be too nosy, though. G

Or maybe you underestimate them? Just joking lol, but I do agree that I don't see anything wrong with it. As long as you know him (or I should say, knew him) reasonably well that is, don't want him to think that you're cyber stalking him or anything!

totally acceptable.

Haha, probably not creepy! I mean, I've added people on Facebook that I haven't seen in over 10 years and caught up with them. If he remembers you and you guys had a good relationship, I wouldn't see a problem with it at all!

All this advise is coming from people with mental problems lol. sorry, I thought that was funny. My mentally problematic advice is to reconnect. Who knows what might happen, but who cares. That is in the future and we live in the present.

Absolutely not.

Think about it logically:

If you message him:
a) He doesn't think it's creepy- awesome!
b) He does think it's creepy- you don't get to rekindle your friendship. Bummer.

If you do not message him:
a) He never hears from you- you don't get to rekindle your friendship. Bummer.


Given the three likely outcomes above, I think the decision is obvious?

Wow. Quite the assumption to make there, and the whole point of the WP forum is to support each each other, is it not? Personally I don't have "mental problems", I have an ASD. Very different thing, and that's true of many, many people here. I actually found that rather offensive.

To Sanctus, yeah, sure get in touch with the chap. Keep it lighthearted ("Hi, long time no speak, remember me? How are you doing?") as opposed to prying too much or being overly familiar. You can then see if and how he responds and take it from there.

If you got on well before, I'm sure he'll be pleased to hear from you. If he doesn't want to interact, the worst that could happen is that he doesn't reply, in which case you're no worse off than you are now!

Go for it

I'm pretty sure he was being facetious. I've made a similiar joke while giving advice once or twice in real life. I think a lot of the irreverency is lost in text, however.

Who better to relate to "mental problems" than people with "mental problems"? Personally I object to the very term "mental" in that context at all. In most people's minds it implies that the problem is the fault of the one who has it. While that is absolutely not the case as far as whether someone has ASD, it isn't exactly the case with anything else either.

It isn't creepy according to me. I would have liked to know about someone from the past in a mail. Now, get the courage to do it.