what is wrong with me!?!

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It would seem yet again I have lost some friends. I'm being ignored. I don't know why and this is causing massive anxiety and stress. I am now feeling very sad. I have given them so much one way or another with animals and reps worth a bit of money too. I have brought food for their animals. Admittedly, they have inturn done some stuff for me..such as help fit my kitchen, and ground work for enclosures and help a bit with building them. But suddenly they have totally withdrawn from. I have also been told by someone who used to be close to them that they have been running me down.

Nothing is WRONG with you. There's probably something wrong with THEM.

I don't know what kind of situation you're in (as far as living, school especially)--so I can't really offer any advice.

Basically, it seems like these people used you.

Sometimes people can be pragmatic about friendships, in that they see them more like networking to get access to things they want and providing payment in kind. Like a barter network. They may be more interested in that than in you as an actual person. I've had it happen before. It's hard to tell the difference though when the first overtures are made.

I'm in a very similar situation myself, and I also wonder what's wrong with me. No matter how hard I try to be a good friend, people always leave eventually.

I used to ask myself the same question actually and the answer would be that most people are just not capable of being good friends. In fact a lot of them like the ones you described are very self centered.

Most of the people who you called friends at the time are in your life because they are lonely, others latch to find weird details and then spread vicious gossip about you because they have nothing better to do and then the third type of person is the shallow one who will only associate with you as long as you get them what they want.

Usually real friends will stick by you no matter who you are and stand up for you if someone else if ugly to you. I worked with a wonderful girl who stood up to a guy who I was having conflicts with for a while. This was after hearing another co-worker saying nasty lies about me. This one is a very good friend whose quite sharp. In fact he and I have gotten along better since.