Shutting down around another aspie

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Has anyone else had an experience like this;

I attended a martial arts class earlier tonight, it was the first time id been to this particular one. I explained I had aspergers and dyspraxia and rheinards and was introduced to another member who has AS and I just froze up and sort of acknowledged him with a raise of the head but the person showing me around had this idea that me and him would get on really well but we didn't talk at all and its like when I finally meet another aspie I freeze up.

*JUDO CHOP*

Solves everything.

Sorry about that, serious reply now.

I encountered a few other Aspies (I'm actually ASD and not aspie) during my autism testing, we made very brief eye contact and then lowered our heads and sat in silence until our names were called.

I think your reaction was within the bounds of normality, don't worry.

Thanks, I just wish I HAD spoke and said a bit more and felt well a bit silly!

I have so many memories of similar situations, almost all tinged with regret at NOT speaking, that I believe this is our reality. I think we have to push through the fear of social rejection and just say something, we might just babble absolute pish though and that is okay.

I don't always manage to beat the fear, but just try harder next time, I always do.

I know, your right, I can be so confident but so full of insecurity too at the same time. Babbling and talking absolute rubbish is what I do best but I don't know the first thing about doing the whole talking thing normally, well I do but I didn't even properly acknowledge this person and hey us aspies should look out for each other right?

He didn't say much either?

So, two options.
1) He doesn't like you that way and said nothing.
2) He liked you.

Add in that he is an autistic muppet like us, and it's very likely 2.
Even if it's 1, talk to him and find out.

We cannot possibly know what others are thinking unless we ask them.