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Why is it these days there is such an obsession with being social, I mean facebook, twitter, myspace, etc... What the heck is so great about large crowds and having to be around people 24/7/365. I find it exhausting, texting, instant messaging, personal messaging, its annoying. Most people get on my nerves anyways. I am proud of my antisocialness. Why is it creepy that someone would rather keep to himself than be a social butterfly or party animal? That is not to say I don't enjoy going out with friends from time to time, I mainly only have one close friend that I see on a regular basis. My idea of fun was last Friday, we went to an afternoon movie and there were only 4 people total in the whole theater. Anyways, my question is, what is with this stupid obsession to be around people 24/7???

I find that a lot of it is just posturing, like the girl who can't get over her cheating ex making her status "So-and-so is SO over you" to try to convince herself and others that she actually is. One girl in particular drives people away, so she'll update her status to something needy and attention seeking to try and get someone to comment (no one does).

I usually just share things I find funny on my facebook; I've kind of become known for my random picture albums (people I've never met think I'm hilarious, apparently ). I also rub in how much better Georgia Tech is than UGA on a weekly basis every Saturday, muahaha.

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Of course, the best kind of friends are the ones you don't have to be social with. They're just there, and you can be together enough not to be lonely without it being a suffocating ordeal of trying to keep up conversation and all that stuff.

I don't think there's anything wrong with being a loner and I can't see why loners are stigmatized just because of a few bad apples who weren't true loners anyway. Most people who commit crimes aren't true loners, they are just portrayed that way in the media so people can distance themselves from criminals, since most people aren't loners. More accurately, criminals are, more often than not, very social, with families and friends. They are just like the majority of people which is what makes people uncomfortable.

Yeah, that is how my friend Chris is. We don't have to always be conversing. Ironically he is about as NT as one can get... it is quite hilarious...

Extroverts.

Some people, believe it or not, can only relax when they're with other people. They think by bouncing ideas off each other, define themselves by what they think of others and what others think of them, intensify emotions by being in a group of people with the same feeling, celebrate events by telling them to other people...

It may be a bit odd to someone who's introverted, but there it is. You might want to think of it as a bit of a "hive-mind" effect--with the exception that each person is not an insignificant part of a collective, but rather feels himself to be significant because he is a part of that collective. Extroverts without other people can suffer such extreme stress that they become depressed.

I don’t get it either. The few times I’ve tried to log on to Facebook, I end up taking one look and flee in a panic. It’s so braindead! The only reason I signed on that darn place at all was that a pen friend send me a message there. Instead of directly to me. And they keep coming. “X has a made a snowman with you”, “X has celebrated Chinese new year with you”, “X has hated Mondays with you”, “X is breeding endangered animals – check out my radiated tortoise” etc. Well, the tortoise was cute, of course, but it’s just make-believe for crying out loud. I just don’t see the point in these things.

I never use my account there.

MySpace isn’t any better, and don’t get me started on Twitter. The only good thing I have to say about Twitter is that at least the idiocy comes in limited dosages! It doesn’t improve the content, though.

No thanks, I’ll stick to fora like this.

I think people become so addicted to those sites that they become their life.

Says he with almost 30,000 posts...

I agree with you, that's why I don't use any of them. I don't even have a cell phone. I like to go online and type my opinion in message boards such as this one, but that's as far as I'll go. I can just type my opinion in and leave.

This!

I don't like those sites either. I feel like a little bit of my intellect dies everytime I log onto one of them.

I agree. I can't stand facebook yet my cousins love it.

Truer words have never been spoken. The best friends are the ones that you can be just as comfortable sitting in silence with as you are talking to them.

But I will echo Callista. A large part of WP is made up of introverts, and so extroversion seems a bit alien--but it's there, and it is a big part of culture.

People that don't realize that there are different people (extroverts vs. introverts, for example) might not see why introverts need to go and hide away from people and keep their thoughts to themselves and be satisfied with only a few friends.

There's also the other side of the coin, where introverts don't understand that extroverts are at their happiest when with other people, socializing.

I explained the concept of introversion and extroversion to my extroverted friend the other day, highlighting the differences, and I honestly think she understands me better now because of it. I told her that after spending hours with her, when she wants me to keep socializing and I'm slowly going comatose, it isn't because I don't enjoy her company, it's just because I'm genuinely exhausted.

So explaining things to people so that they understand you is very helpful, I think. Or maybe I just have understanding friendlies.

The weird thing is, earlier I was at a car show/cruise night event and I was completely comfortable. I do know some of the people there.

I get on face book to play scrabble
It weirds me out that people I don't know or who are dismissive or outright rude to me in real life want to be my "friend" on facebook