Adolf wrote:
My experience of aspie women is that they are loyal to death. They'll follow me anywhere without asking or questioning and they'll defend me even when they suspect I'm wrong.
My experience of aspie males however is that they somehow enjoy breaking promises or loyalties. I have told aspie guys things about myself which they have then blurted out at very inappropriate times just to humiliate me. I have also asked aspie guys to promise me to "not tell anyone about this" and the first thing they do is to go and break that promise by talking to someone.
If this was because of worthless social skills, then why are the aspie women so loyal in comparison to the men, according to my own experience? Clearly the women I've met have had the ability to keep promises, but a lot of the men haven't. In fact I got the impression from the aspie guys that they get some kind of kick out of sitting on information and then just blurting it out with malicious intent.
I think it's might be true that Aspies tend to be more loyal, but, if so, it's a tendency, not an absolute.
As for males versus females (which is really a different issue), could it be that the relationships are different? I notice you describe two different things, as far as how women are loyal, but males are not. The very same person can be loyal as far as following you anywhere without asking questions and defending you, but also not good at keeping secrets. Furthermore, not keeping secrets may not always be a lack of loyalty, but, well, just not being good at keeping secrets. Maybe not having a sense of what's okay to tell or not.
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not aspie, not NT, somewhere in between
Aspie Quiz: 110 Aspie, 103 Neurotypical.
Used to be more autistic than I am now.