What did his reaction mean?

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There's this guy at my school. I find him sort of attractive. But you'd never guess. I mean, he asked to look at my skeletool once, and complimented some things of mine a few times, and we occasionally make eye contact in the halls. But that's it
Well, today I walked into the classroom to put my bags away, and he was there, and no one else was. He saw me coming, and looked down quickly, then started whistling. And he wouldn't stop, and kept moving his hands. All I was doing was sitting (we sit at the same big table) and he kept making the whistling like he was stimming, and nervous or something, not looking at me (I didn't acknoweldge him either. I wanted to tell him something funny, but boggled my mind so didn't.). And then after a bit he got up and left quickly. I kind of had to make sure I wouldn't giggle, because it was a bit funny.
Why did he do that? Does he dislike me?

He's not an Aspie if you want to hear that, cause aspies can't be attractive.

I didn't say I thought he was. :S I didn't assume he was, either. I was wondering what that sort of reaction to my presence meant.
And aspies CAN be attractive!

Yes, they can! If you met one Aspie, you've met one Aspie!

To the OP, I think the guy sounded like he was overcome with bashfulness or something. But I am equally clueless at deciphering random behaviors, too, so I don't know if that helps!

How ironic. He wants attention away from himself, so he starts whistling an off-key tune. It was sort of cute. I hope someone comes along and tells me what it meant. XD I wouldn't like for him to dislike me.

Talk to him silly. That's that only way you'll find out.

I see nothing in that behavior that would indicate he dislikes you.

He might have been trying to get you to say something to him, to initiate a conversation.

Or he may have been completely preoccupied with something going on in his own head, and barely aware of your presence. Like trying to work up the nerve to go ask a teacher about a grade or something. Might have had nothing to do with you.

I wouldn't sweat it. If it's you he's interested in, watch for furtive eye contact. Next time you see him, ask him "What was that tune you were whistling? It sounded like The Tennessee Waltz." Of course it didn't and it wasn't, but it might spur him to explain what was actually going on in his mind at the time.

Given this background, I'd say there's, say, a 40% chance he likes you! Take a deep breath and enjoy this possibility. And if you so choose, take it step by step. Hartzofspace may be right. He may have been bashful, toward you!

Or, the outside possibility Willard mentioned, that he was working up nerve to talk to a teacher about a grade. Or, anything in the middle. Or, anything else entirely. All you know for certain is that he was stressed, about something. But given the background that he has complimented you a couple of times, and that the two of you occasionally make eye contact, well, you just never know.

'What was that you were whistling? It sounded like something from a movie.' (or 'Tennessee Waltz' as Willard suggests, although not sure how well that really transfers to Turkish culture, and even as an American, I'm not really sure what the Tennessee Waltz is! though have heard the phrase)

Or, bring up something entirely different, like the most recent funny story you've seen or heard.

Or, something else artful, and be brief so you can listen to and pay attention to his reaction. (I always have to remind myself to be brief because I can easily slide into the mode of all-sending, no-receiving)

Well, it's safe to say he was affected by me. We were alone in the room. And he only started after glancing at me walking in, and then quickly looking down, then he started whistling.
I would ask what tune it was, I should have. But it was so unrecognizable. XD

Made most famous by Patti Page in 1950, it was first written and recorded in 1947. Many versions released during the early 50s, to varying degrees of success, but it was a common jukebox record about a decade before I was born. When I was a child, older folks used to sing it to themselves.

Wait a second, is this the same one that you posted about before, the one that was flirting with you? Maybe ask him to meet for coffee??

Maybe ask him if he'd like to come to the library to . . (?) look over a paper you've written that you'd like his opinion about

i honestly think he was just trying to be quirky and cute. he probably left because he was feeling anxious or forgot something. or really had to fart. who knows!

This is a different guy. LOL! Maybe he had to fart? XD

What the Hell is this s***? You're joking right?

I certainly hope he is joking!