Making friends on Wrong Planet?

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is it possible to make fiends on Wrong Planet? I've learned to recognize some folks from their login and pic, but I've not really made any friends - and by that I mean people who look forward to having you around and interacting with you on some level. Does that happen on Wrong Planet - that people become friends? If so, how do they do it?

You private message them, they keep responding back. Maybe they'll even give you another contact info besides Wrongplanet. I met one person in person off of Wrongplanet, we both lived in the same state and have NVLD, and he was gonna be in the area and we met up. Occasionally we call eachother and stuff. But that's pretty much it. You PM people or otherwise contact them, and they're your friend if you keep talking to eachother back and forth. Pretty much all there is to it. Mind you, you can annoy people and not everyone is gonna like you either, thus why I've not been incredibly PM happy here, compared to when I was younger and would go on messageboards and just PM everyone and not care, but that's about all there is to it.

It works about the same in real life, too. Just online you're as anonymous as you wanna be, and thus the consequences don't feel as real (though I've felt quite sad over longtime online friends not talking to me, though.)

I have tried to do the same thing...... with varying degrees of success. Maybe it's because I've been on here for only a month that only a few have replied to any PMs I have sent. I hope I am not coming across as annoying or anything bad.

There are also regional meetup threads on this forum, so if you look for your region you could meet with WP members from your area.

I've made friends on here. I just PM somebody who I like to talk to on the forum and we chat that way. I have some people on my FB and have talked to one person on the phone, but nobody lives around me to go hang out with though. Mindsigh lives about an hour away, and maybe one day we can get together.

Some friends I have made because I argued with them, some were moderators who sent me a warning and then we got to chatting about other things in the PM, some are people who I have continued forum conversations with in PM, one is someone I respected and had a book they would like and I PM'd to see if they would like me to mail it, It just varies.

There are several people here I would like to be friends with off the forum (in PM's or FB or email, etc) but I haven't really said anything to them. If the opportunity comes up I will though.

Just chat with certain people on the forum and if they seem interesting to you, PM them. WP is one place where it's really acceptable to just say "You seem interesting, would you like to be friends?" without somebody thinking you are wierd. You don't need to find a convoluted way to go about it like you do in the face to face NT world.

Also, some friends I chat with on here fairly often, some I chat with on FB often, some I only talk to occasionally, and some I talk to often for a while and then one of us gets busy and we don't talk for a few weeks or a month or so even, but we are still friends.

It's very possible and I think you should go for it.

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I think its quite possible to make friends on WP, i myself are just not very good at it o_o I don't know what stops me most of the time though, i do like WP a lot though, but i'm usually only around the Random Discussions, so i don't think people know who i am at all xD

Well, as this is a AS forum it can rather difficult, as most here will not be greatly social. Most here are no different in social requirements though, the same rules will still apply. You have to be very interesting, smart, or creative. If not, they will most likely stop contact with you. Which has happened to me multiple times. If you want to talk to someone in particular then reply to them in posts they make in topics, if you feel you can add to it. After conversing a few times maybe drop them a PM, who knows, you may get better results than I have.

Some of us can be more social than others, I'd say. Everyone's mileage may vary. I'm pretty outgoing myself.

People don't get along with me very well so I don't seek friendship anymore. It's kind of pointless when it always ends with them insulting me or totally ignoring me, and me telling them to find someone else to bother with their closed minds.

Plus, anymore, I'm not that sociable, people tend to think that I'm an a**hole for sticking to the truth of a matter (or my beliefs for that matter which happened this year as well). So I don't bother.

I've made some really good friends on WP, and I currently talk to two of them outside of WP everyday. Most of them are becoming rather busy with schoolwork now however.

I'm still glad I got to meet some great people here though.

So yes, it is quite possible to make friends here.

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I have tried to make friends. We would message each other regularly only to find out they are not here to make friends. Then communication would slow down or seize to exist.

Although I do have some people that message me regularly, I'm not sure if they want to be friends. I have dropped the issue and just accept that if they want to write, I will write back for some communication.

WP is a very large site, and unless you have a particularly interesting personality, or unless you stand out in some way, it is difficult to get much attention.

i have difficulties with reciprocal conversation, and so i tend to socially starve people i talk to.

i have had 3 people PM me (with friendly intentions that is (i have had many moderator warnings and septic posts from disgruntled members)) in my 4 years here, and one of them PM's me out of concern as to how i am going in my life (which i appreciate), and another one recently PM'd me saying that they thought i was interesting, but i think i spoke too much about myself to them and they were starved of things to say to me and their final pm was something like "hmmm. i don't know what to say any more, so feel free to pm me if you wish in the future".

i have never sent an unsolicited PM to anyone so that conversation died there.

one thing i absolutely have to work on is my interest in other peoples lives if i ever want to have friends.

unfortunately, i have little interest in other peoples "life and times", and i often forget to ask questions that give room for other people to talk about themselves.

i have little personality that attracts people's attention, so no one is interested in what i post because it is usually a generic response or else a simple dead pan response.

one intelligent person (who i trust) told me once that my social style is simply a series of proclamations and announcements interspersed with throw away comments that are formulated with little thought.

even if i did make a friend on WP, i would never meet them because i live in australia (and the australians on WP are not similar to me), so i guess i treat WP as simply a place to type words when i am too tired to continue with my other interests. i always post on WP when i am so tired that i am deciding to go to bed within 1/2 hour. i never post during the day when my mind is clear and well functioning because during that time, i am always privately investigating my interests.

Im shure I have friends here. They are all probably busy doing whatever is they do and I dont wanna bother them. One thing to keep in mind too is sometimes people that were your friends are no longer intrested in a friendship with you. This is ok! people move on, sometimes they just arent intrested in you anymore. One piece of advice I can give you is dont become obsessed with them, That for shure will creep them out. And dont let it stress you out that they no longer are your friend. you must move on also

Absolutely it is, though that doesn't mean that everyone wants to.
I think, I am always approachable myself, though am not sure whether people see enough of the true me to actually want to.