Who has no friends?

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I have no friends. I'm alone all day.

I have acquaintences that I sometimes enjoy talking to, but I always assume they don't like me so I try not to get too close to them. But I am not particularly interested in making any.

anyone a pen so i can write my own eulogy??

i have a friend but i don't talk to him outside of class

a lot of acquaintances but i barely talk to them

i have a few very good online friends that i love to death... sometimes i feel really foolish about it but meh..

its so crazy that there really are lots of other people like me...

I don't have any true friends, just a small circle of aquaintences. My family is quite disfunctional (or could it be me?), so I don't talk to them. I got along with my daughter superbly, but her mom abducted her. I've become used to not having friends, and prefer not to have friends. As long as I have my dog, I get by.

I never had that many friends in school, nor did I want that many, because most of the people at my school were utter idiots who never actually understood me. I never really had that many friends at university, either - in fact, you could probably count the total from both on the fingers of one hand.

I think I have more friends now than I've ever had before - going to a role-playing group on Tuesday nights has let me talk to a lot of people with similar interests, and that's been a real help. One or two guys there are really cool with me, and that's a really nice feeling. It's been good for me to be in an environment where people actually know what I'm talking about, and tolerate my quirks rather than treating me like the office jester.

I pretty much have one real good true friend. Then I have a few that are mainly just good acquaintances.

None whatsoever. I've tried to connect with people online in virtualspace, but that is just as bad as in real life. Anytime I try to talk someone, it's a complete diasater. I'm f****d.

I used to have a long list of friends and strong acquaintances.

But now, as time has went on and I am no longer in school... the only real friend I have is my first younger brother, who I only see a couple of times a month.

Rather than that, no. I'm very much a loner.

Yup got only one friend and she is also my partner, the only other people in my life I wouldn't call your standard definition of friends, as its entirely about the music, but still, its good to have a medium to grow together in.

No friends except my boyfriend. I talk to my family and aquaintences that I've known for years, but I don't have any friends anymore. It only bothers me because I have no-one to talk to about my interests except on forums. Who cares really, people generally hate my guts or feel sorry for me anyway.

The answer to the question at hand: Yes and no.

I could say no because I have two long-time friends with whom I am in contact, and have been since sixth grade or before.

But I don't talk to them as much as I used to and they're both almost twenty years older than me.

It scares me that I have better relationships with adults than I do with people my age.

As for friends my age, I had quite a few of them back in elementary school - from first grade, where everyone's your friend, to the more socially competitive and exclusive fourth and fifth grades. When social groupings began to form, I was part of one group of guys who, despite a few unorthodox interests, got along well with society.

But let's not gloss over the bad... even if I had a social life, I was still an easy target and was often picked upon, often by people I thought were my friends. And since then, I've lost trust in humanity and have refused to play the social game.

Three school districts later, I might be able to answer "yes" to the question at hand with more honesty than I ever did - though answering "yes" with 100% certainty is a short ways off.

(In ninth grade, this question came up in conversation, to which I said yes, and I genuinely believed myself. But in retrospect, I dod have a couple people I could call friends, and I certainly had far more social interaction then than I am having right now.)

Where I live a mother of an aspie took initiative to have montly meetings. That worked for some of the teenagers. From having few friends they now had a whole bunch of kids to try out as new friends. All having been diagnosed. For some it worked out very good. They going steady and moving together and still love each other while others was not soo lucky.

We are all soo different in social clumsyness and to find a perfect match is hard.

I am very lonely and feel bad about it. I desperately long for us aspies to come up with a kind of structure that would allow us to have a kind of social network that is less demanding than the usual hierarchical structures of groups.

I'm an atheist so I don't support religious groups but they have managed to make rather non-demanding structures. Sure they have very strict hierarchies there too but even homeless people are allowed to just walk in and share in singing and holding hands with all the others.

A kind of non-conditional love? Motherly love? Sadly they have very demanding fatherly love too. You have to fully give up your individuality and become a sheep in the heard of the Shepherd.

So maybe it is just a bait and switch scheme to lure in the innocent.

But why could we not take the good part and skip the bad part.

We could have a kind of Aspie Love Nest. We sing and dance and hug and enjoy being ok in the eyes of all joining. Sooner or later all of us may find potential friends in the crowd.

I at least daydream that this is a possiblity or am I just dreaming?

Lonely indeed.

ps is it more proper english to say that unconditional love is as motherly love?

I thought about this one for awhile and realised that people would say that I'm their friend, but I don't feel the same. I don't feel connected to them, I don't feel they understand me and wouldn't be half as interested if I didn't make them laugh so much. But then again, isn't friendship just an arrangement of mutual benefit?

Now this i understand, and i feel the same way. I can understand this perfectly. I thought i had one friend who understood me and i felt connected to. And whem i met her last week i realise she did not understand me at all, and i feel the connection is broken, and other people who consider me a friend i don;t feel the same way, im not connected, because im treated badly by them. They don't understand me at all. I don't feel i benefit from any current friends i might tihnk of, apart from one i just met here and i hope im bonding with.

I don't have any friends. I don't even have online friends anymore. Maybe once a year or so I get someone who seems to want to be friends with me, but I end up blowing it somehow. The longest people talk to me is about 2 weeks and it's very rare that someone even tries to befriend me in the first place.