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omfgz
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05 Nov 2009, 11:40 pm

Praetor2379 wrote:
I met this girl last week at the start of school. She sat beside me on the first day of school, and she offered me a piece of gum. That's how I met her. We've sat beside each other a few times now, but my conversations with her are quite limited. Beyond asking her how she is, what courses she's taking, etc. I really have nothing to sustain a friendship with. I also don't want to seem to clingy to her so I wont sit beside her on my own initiative, I wait for her to come sit near me. Today we sat beside each other, but I only said how are you, and at the end of class I said bye. Can anyone tell me how I can maintain a friendship with her?


Usually what I do is I just take up a kind of relaxed, loose, 'you're already me friend' kind of attitude and just, well, talk. About school, your life, joke around, complain even. Make a joke about how the gum tasted or whatever, just do something to show your personality



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06 Nov 2009, 4:42 pm

@omfgz
If it were that simple, I doubt this topic would have been created in the first place. I personally hate it when people say "just talk" because it seems insulting. I get the point that I need to "just talk" - but it's no use when you don't know how to do it!

As for the topic, one suggestion I have is to be sure to work with her on your assignments you both may have in common. I've found that while they aren't the strongest friendships, working together helps two people get to know each other a bit better, along with showing each other that you're both there for each other. This is especially useful if you end up being able to help her more then she helps you, because then it makes you seem to be a good friend.