Janissy wrote:
b9 wrote:
i have never been mocked for being "single", but some people that were interested in me in the past (who i did not warm to) mock me for having a girlfriend who is 99kg (218 lbs) and who has a low IQ.
there has been gossip among some girls where they think that i am "afraid" of sexually appealing and confident girls because i am socially insufficient to deal with them, and instead it is postulated by them that i choose to "predate" on unassuming "stupid" and "ugly" girls (who are "desperate").
i never go looking for friends or company, so i do not like the label of "predator".
i do not want to play any role in the unfolding drama of a "prima donna" type of girls life, and follow her expected script.
i have my own life and times to experience and see from.
so i do reject pushy girls that lick their lips and are forceful in wanting me to associate with them because they have some maligned internal agenda, and my girlfriend who i love is not like them.
she is not conceited and full of conditionally sculpted expectations.
she accepts anything i can give with appreciation. she is not interesting to any of the studs who strut their stuff at the tavern (where we often eat), but i find her to be very much alive and in a world inviting of my attention.
general men are looking for sexually attractive girls, and they are rude to anyone "lesser" than than the reason they came to the tavern.
they are very cruel to tammy, and i take her in my arms and we go home and she becomes happy rapidly again.
some "sexy"(their image of themselves) girls who wanted to know me are now very disgruntled that ii am devoted to tammies happiness, and they think they are better, and so they start to gossip about me being a "ret*d trawler".
conceited people mock me for being a deep friend to someone who they think is inferior to them.
i condemn their thoughts.
Wow! That is some ugly and vicious behaviour from them. I condemn their thoughts too although they are on the other side of the planet from me and I only know of their existence from your post. But I've seen it many times before over here. It's the entitlement attitude of the good-looking people. They figure that since God/evolution gave them a gorgeous face and body, they deserve to get everything else they want too. They also assume that this gorgeous face and body means that everybody else wants them. (I'm keeping it gender neutral because handsome men do this too.) They get what they want and the "lesser" people can go scrambling for the crumbs they choose to discard.
that is very well worded and easy for me to understand (in my opinion)
when i rarely go to the tavern, i see snobbery everywhere, and all the people who think they are pretty have their hands on their hips, and are posing in a stance that i am sure they must have practised in the mirror many times. they "pout" their lips, and they go through routines that remind me of peacocks shivering their tails in displays designed to get sex.
i do not understand the value of it all.
Janissy wrote:
Clearly they want you. In the absence of photographic evidence I will assume that you are handsome because they would leave you alone if you were not. They also wouldn't begrudge Tammy the attention she gets from you because they look with what they consider benevolence on "ugly couples". As long as no "ugly" person has what they want, they are fine with it. But god forbid somebody they deem inferior is treated with love and respect by somebody they consider their beauty equal (that would be you).
no i am not handsome. my picture is in the "post a pic of you" thread.
i am not like an athletic greek adonis.
i am rather childish in my physical and mental development and i do not have any pheromones i suspect.
Janissy wrote:
This post possibly doesn't make any sense to you. That's ok. It doesn't have to. I'm just venting, really, because I've seen this phenomenon so many times. And now that I have a daughter who has some things in common with Tammy I despair that there are too many people in the world like them and not enough like you and therefore perhaps nobody for her.
it made sense to me.
in a public bar there are many low standard people who are not smart and they belittle anyone they see that they think is "thankfully" below them in IQ.
those people are destined to live their life in a way like hyenas.
they remind me of hyenas when they laugh in their yipping way, and their eyes are focused on small potential flaws in who they are laughing inanely about.
that is the fabric of a large part of general society, and it is not in my interests to try to communicate with them.
i love tammy in complete privacy, and no one else can see how much i love her but her. and she is content.
"happiness to be in someones company" is how i perceive "love".
i very much hope your daughter finds someone who cares for her ideas and cares for her attention. not everyone in the world is a bad person i know. i just only talk about things that i do no not like in some threads.
thankyou for replying so thoroughly to my post jannisy.
29 Nov 2009, 9:51 am
I'm so proud of her.
