Does everyone manipulate

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I have been used in the past, and now I'm reluctant to help people unless they actually talk to me (for non request purposes), or if they're gonna pay me back somehow.

I know I have manipulated people. I tried to control my family when I was in my teens, I tried manipulating my mother by not speaking to her because she took away the computer. I used to try and give my mom guilt trips for punishing me and I had the desire for it but I wasn't any good at it. Same as for my friends.

I think aspies don't always realize they are manipulating. I have been told I was and I didn't even know I was doing it. I knew what I was doing but I didn't know it was manipulation. If I am trying to get what I want or get my way, it is. But when an aspie acts up because they didn't like something was taken from them so they act up such as giving their mother the silent treatment because they are mad or they run away, manipulation. That is just giving her the guilt trip. My mom didn't give in on me, she was strong. But my dad did.

I even knew an aspie who manipulated his mother, he hit her and break things to get his way. He also had ODD. She always gave in on him.

I think autistic people are less likely to have that capability, but I could be wrong. Even if you don't know the word for it, you know if you manipulate people or not. They definitely know what they are doing as I have since learned from a master at it. I learned finally by being manipulated for more than two decades and it took me just about that long to be able to identify and figure it out. Some people are just really good liars. I'm still slow to figure it out when it's happening but can pretty quickly afterward, anyway. I resent it that I have been subject to it and spent the bulk of my life around such a cunning manipulative liar. It doesn't make me feel any less like an idiot though. Maybe some manipulation is normal, I don't know. I never had that luxury in life I guess with parents that could be manipulated and such but even if I did I doubt it would have ever occurred to me in the first place. I guess I'm just stupid that way but I'd rather be stupid than be that sort of individual who lacks integrity and morals and can be so reckless, manipulative and careless with another. I'm very ashamed too that I have been victimized this way for such a long time. I thought I did everything possible to protect myself and that's what I ended up with. I didn't even know what was happening to me and by the time I figured it out too much of my mind and soul had already been lost. People like that are very deceiving and they know very well what they are doing.

I think your right .

This is one of the main reasons I don't like humanity as a whole. I think people with AS are more likely to be misinterpreted as trying to manipulate when they actually aren't, because they'll bring up facts pertaining to a situation "just because". Ever notice colleges and businesses have a higher per-capita number of arrogant pricks, and that these environments are some of the most ill-suited so people with AS? Check this article out: Click here.

It's science, pure and simple. If you're a really successful person, it's probably because you're an evil f**k. End of story.

Yes, I recognize my own hyperbole. Yes, I realize that your level of morality does not always necessarily correlate negatively with your level of success, however that is defined. Yes, it's a blanket generalization with many, many exceptions. But you know what? Stereotypes exist for a reason, and nice guys finish last. I'll accept my poverty and even wear it as a badge of pride, so long as I'm not seen as another part of the problem of this s**thole planet.