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Religion and politics were never discussed. It was listed on each of our profiles, though.

Then I would seriously doubt, after having been friends for an extended period, that suddenly she would read your political and/or religious views and decide she couldn't have you in her life. Be patient, don't panic or demand, and see what she has to say. And if she did leave for that reason... well, it would be both unfortunate and something to be thankful for, as someone that shallow really isn't worth keeping in your life. Just my opinion, but I'd ask that you consider it awhile.


M.

I can't think of any other reason why she wouldn't want me as a friend.

If you decide for her, then you're being completely unfair to her and prejudging her based on your past experiences; to me, that's not better than someone on the spectrum being stereotyped in a similar fashion. If you want to be treated fairly, then doesn't it make sense to treat others fairly in return? You're making an assumption here.


M.

I still haven't heard from her.

I have had two situations where I have had a similar experience. One involved my best friend of 15 years, the other involved a childhood chum/classmate/casual friend of 25 years. Both cases also involved life changing situations that these people were involved in.

To put it mildly, one moment the friendship was going along fine, the next moment they had nothing to do with me. The contact was usually ended with an abrupt e-mail.

In both of these situations, my obsessiveness/interests in their situations collided with human dynamics and became issue not necessary with my friends mentioned, but those close to them including family, other friends and others involved in their lives.

Maybe your friend is going through a life experience that she does not want your presence in, or someone close to her has had qualms with something you said/did and her way of dealing is divorcing you from the situation.
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I know it hurts, but there is also hope. After about a year or so of cooling off, my best friend and I started speaking to one another again. The friendship has come back as strong as it was before. My casual friend and I are still having problems, even though he doesn't return e-mails, telephone calls, Facebook related correspondence (he also unfriended me), he has been cordial the couple of times that I have run into him out and about. I have not yet had the opportunity to discuss the situation with him, but I have heard through others that are close to him kind of what happened.

Just hang in there, and I hope all works out.

It's been nearly 24 hours, and still nothing.

A day does not patience make; if she is that valuable of a friend, she is worth giving the opportunity to respond on her schedule.


M.

That's what I've been doing. But deleting me from Facebook was an anti-social gesture.

Still nothing.

No. it's because you watch the Simpsons and South Park.

This just happened all of a sudden. One day we were getting along very well, the next, she avoids me.

I do know that she is studying abroad this semester, and that might have something to do with it. I will know the status of the friendship probably in May.

People do it for a variety of reasons.
Instead of trying to add her again (people never get deleted by mistake)

Approach her and ask her why she deleted you. Call her on the phone etc. I'm assuiming you know her irl... if you don't, then i doubt her moving has anything to do with it.

It always hurts when someone stops talking to you when you two have been having a great chat and then all of a sudden they stop. I had that experiance not too long ago and well he was just using me anyway so it doesn't matter. When he found out he wasn't going to be getting what he wanted from me, he didn't reply to my new PM when I said in it "no" and he deleted all my comments from his profile. So it's obvious. But it still hurt because he had managed to befriend me and we both seemed to think alike and well he liked me and kept telling me how hot I am and he was unique because he said he was shy and honest but that was probably all an act. I am still too trusting I realized. But not in everything of course. Just in some areas.

I had an experiance where someone from my high school added me and then she kept adding me and then I would see she wouldn't be on my facebook friends list so I add her again. She confirmed it. Then I see she isn't on my friend's list. I don't see why someone would keep removing me and then adding me so I figured it was some glitch.