If you had the chance to start over in life...

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How come everyone keeps saying they'd repeat the same mistakes? That's dumb.

No, it is not dumb.
They know they did not see the social cues then, and will very likely not see them now.

I do not think I would have many friends, because I find that friends do not bring very much value in my life.
I would probably just sit at home all day at weekends and be passive at school, like I am now.

To go back knowing what I know now?
YES!! !

I'd go back to the summer between 1st and 2nd grade and re-start there. From my standpoint the "course correction" that needs done the most can be done starting there.

Dealing with peers: Not that I know all that much now but I know a helluva lot more now than then from trial and error. Enough to at least lessen the damage significantly and build more lasting friendships. I would see the importance of "playing the game" and to "go along to get along". These are things blew off with arrogant contempt all too often I was a kid and paid for.

Dealing with my parents: Being a kid but having adult knowledge I could run rings around them and guilt them into doing the right thing by me and my younger brother by taking more of a sincere interest in our upbringing and development.

Shaping my destiny: Now that I know what I could have done for my future , things I didn't realize or didn't exist then, I could do it. This covers savings, investments, and education. You could say there's some greed here and maybe so but nothing that's going to hurt anyone else, that's not what this is about.

Reliving childhood and adolescence in general: The good things I took for granted as a kid would be more appreciated the second time around. The inevitable crappy things I'd be better prepared for and could be taken in stride. I'd force myself to be at least somewhat more outgoing whether I liked it or not just because it has social benefits that I now believe I'd be better of with than without. The things I would do different are too many to list and it boggles the mind.

On the downside I'd be giving up the freedom of adulthood, something I treasure, to go back to well before I was an adult. Being told what to do and having limited liberties often extended and withheld at the whim of my parents and other adults with no rationale.
Living in the past, I'd have to be very careful about what I talked so I wouldn't talk about things or use words that don't yet exist. In the past 20+ years things have changed more than we realize.
It would in some ways be a prison but one that I could, for the most part, happily live with and the knowledge that I would emerge from in a better state would sweeten it.

I'd do it in a minute!