Too picky when it comes to making friends?

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yeah, but still there's this issue of the NT friend who'd introduce me to other people. his/her friends or family will start judging me for all the wrong reasons. would i want the friendship to continue? HELL TO THE NO! that's a risk i'm unwilling to take. with that in consideration, i'd rather blow off this person who wants to be friends with me and spare myself from any further humiliation than what i'm already used to.

Fair enough mate. As much as I want you to have as many friends as you can handle, if you can smell a rat there then who am I to deny your conscience's nose!? ^_^
Best of luck for the future.

I don't see the harm in giving someone a chance. You say that you know it's not going to work out, but in truth, you don't. You are assuming that it won't work out. The only reason I can see for not even being an acquaintance to this person is that I'm afraid your preconceived notions of failure will be a self-fulfilling prophesy.

I have this tendency too, I admit. But it's less that I'm afraid we have nothing in common (it seems I have nothing in common with anybody) but more so conflicting lifestyles (if someone does a lot of drugs, for example). And I never mean to deny friendship, but it's rather more of a mutual thing. Really, the only reason for me to not want to be friends with someone is if I find their presence boring (most people). But, I am trying to work on this and give more people chances. Worse comes to worse, you are not friends. No bridges need to be burned in the process.

As far as your note about a feminist being friends with a porn actress, a lot of porn actresses are feminists themselves and most certainly have feminist friends. It's not exactly the same, but one of the most feminist women I know works at a porn shop and has met, and admires plenty, of porn stars.

And who cares who likes lady gaga? Seriously. The quality of a person is not directly related to their cd collection. I know plenty of a**holes that have similar tastes in music as I do, and plenty of good people who listen to music that I simply do not understand. But some of my friends with opposite musical tastes have introduced me to some great music I would have never found on my own, or even known I wanted to.

I have a tendency to go on too long, so I apologize.

this may come off as a different subject, but here it is:

feminists porn actresses?! really??! ! that's messed up! you're talking about the same women who degrade themselves by leading men to think that all women want is to be objectified as sex objects. they want to give men the impression that all women wanna be raped, tortured, naked, slaves, and treated like s#!t.
i, for one, don't want to be considered in such way! i may be a female with Asperger's but i'm a human-being, dammit!
in case you don't know what a feminist is it's someone who believes that women deserve to leave the house and gain equality in work and other endeavors in life the way men do. not for submitting themselves by taking their clothes off and being objectified and whatnot. women have done that for millions & millions of years. and were they ever considered equal to men even in the old ages? i don't think so.
to me, pornography and feminism just don't mix!

Feminism is about a female's choice to do what she wants as opposed to what society says she should or should not do. There is not one type of feminist, and there is not one type of porn. A lot of it is incredibly degrading, and I would agree that those involved are certainly not looking for gender equality. But there is porn out there with the consent of two adults being stressed, and I've even encountered porn that tries to educate about safety as so forth. This is not the norm, unfortunately, and I think that as long as the majority of it is what you describe than we will continue to have the conundrum that women are allowed to be neither prude or sexual in nature.

I know this is the biggest threadjack ever, but having friends who study the psychology of pornography and such makes this a bit of a passionate topic for me, considering that's all they talk about. :p

I seldomly get approached, but recently last year in my geography course I got right away approached and i was surprised why she was so friendly , because I am not used to it, she is friendly wihtout being that fake freindliness that some people are(and people who make fun of you falling for that trap) .

That goes double for me! May I hazard a guess that this is because you wish to spend your time around people that you wish to be like or reflect your own personality? I feel that such is the case with me, at least.
I'm glad that you know who you're looking for in a friend, too. Do you have a better time of it when you know what sort of person you want to meet?

It would surprise me too! I have to congratulate you for being blessed with such an opportunity. I'm quite jealous! How have you been getting on with her since you met her?

I need to have common interests with friends. Usually, I need multiple otherwise they're regulated to only being a friend in that "area". I'll have my movie friend, my board game friend, my fishing friend, etc. If that person loses that one interest our friendship is based on, the friendship will inevitably die.

Potential "friends" must meet certian criteria for me to even consider being friends with them. My bearded dragon is my best friend.