Were you ever friends with outcasts?

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Yes, but just because my friends weren't in the popular clique I refuse to call them outcasts, no matter what anyone else thinks of them. I myself was an outcast in junior high, and I hate the word to this day. It's so ugly.

Yeah dude...that's exactly the same feeling I have and that's my exact experience. I would sit at the 'loser' table...now some of the kids...I'm not gonna lie were just to annoying but I am friends with a couple of them. I wouldn't call myself an outcast but I was one of the 'untouchables' that seemed to get picked on everyday...by a-holes...these kids were mostly scum and not in the poular clique but still liked by many...the popular clique would pretty much ignore us and very few would talk to us. Out of say 150 kids in my graduating class...around 10-20 were very cruel to me and the rest were either too stuck up to talk or I could get along with them.

Then there were a couple of kids who were not exactly at the top of the popularity charts, but were well-liked who stuck up for me and others in my standing at times. That made me very happy because if I was popular I would be doing the same thing and not leave anyone behind...Yet again I can't stand the word popular...it's so f'in fake and shallow...I prefer to say if I was liked by many...and that's all I ever really wanted

When I was in middle school, we were required to eat lunch in the cafeteria. On Tuesdays and Thursdays, there was nobody I knew and I wasn't good at making friends. At the back table there was a boy sitting alone with an excessively large book on Condors (the bird). I thought this strange, as all of the other tables were over packed, and this one was completely empty.

I sat across the long rectangular table from him and ate my lunch, we didn't speak or even acknowledge each other. The next day I sat next to him and it was the same. Finally on the third say, the same book, I was close enough to clearly see what he was reading, so I commented to him and it was like a switch went off on him. He had changed completely, and began talking excessively and at length about condors. So from that day forth, he would show me his book after lunch and we would speak about condors, but he never seemed to run out of things to say.

He transferred once the year was over to a more accommodating high school, as I found out many years later he had some form of autism. I did not know anything about autism, symptoms of even it's existence. But I felt a kinship with this person who was different.

Yeah I've always made friends with outcasts, some are lovely and some annoy me like crazy. I stick by those who annoy me because I understand their loneliness.

I seem to make friends with people who don't know how to have or be friends and we talk alot about how difficult it is to make friends. You would think that we would spend more time with each other, but we don't really know what we're meant to do. And they annoy me, so I don't really want to see them that often anyway. Man that makes me look really mean and judgemental... but it's true.

At lunch I sat with the kids who did not speak good english, and the 2 other kids that did the same.

Being that I was considered a nerd, geek, spas, and over all outcast myself, it was only natural for me to associate with "my own kind" back in grade school, junior high, and high school. I have even kept up friendships with some of them after all these years. In college, I found there was much less of a social caste system, though many of my friends I studied with would have been considered outcasts back in junior high and high school. To think of it, my wife and most of my current friends were hardly the popular types back in school. My choice of companionship wasn't just dictated by my own social standing; as with other posters, I found the so called outcasts much more interesting and intellectually gifted.

-Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer

I befriend the unpopular first! There was one annoying girl though, in elementary school. She was socially very strange. I didn't like her because she didn't believe in dinosaurs, and seemed kind of controlling. Also, she follower me around places.

LOL. How did dinosaurs even come up in the first place?

And yeah, I do the same thing. I really should stop.

I can't remember. XD It was like, 10 years ago. But I really loved dinosaurs and science, so I found her disbelief ridiculous.

What? Follow people? Or control them?

I didn't know any outcasts.

Always. From elementary and high school, and even today, I always befriend or somehow end up befriending the friendless. I don't see it as a bad thing though...as I consider myself non-judgemental and will not dislike someone based on their social status or social abilities.

oh god I feel like such an ass, but I thought I deserved cool friends, and instantly rejected the idea of being friends with people with no friends. But once I did this one girl and she was really annoying .... but some other people I wish that I did though, it would have been an match in friend heaven.

All the time. I just rarely realised that they WERE outcasts, or weird, or whatever. I'd just meet them and think 'oh thank god, someone that I can relate to at last'.