phoenixjsu wrote:
I have several female friends, most of which are quite attractive, and I have no designs on getting into their pants.
Even if you did experience desire to get in their pants, there is nothing wrong with that PROVIDED you are happy to remain friends with them regardless of whether you get in their pants.
It is only bad if sex is a requirement to maintain the friendship. By itself, experiencing desire is fine.
hale_bopp wrote:
Thats because males only want sex.
Fiz wrote:
thats [sex] pretty much what men really think about.
You two are being misandrists and/or falling for inaccurate stereotypes. The reality of the situation is that on average, women think about sex just as much as men. Some men even feel threatened by the extent of female sexuality.
Men may be a little more obvious about their sexual desires. Also women may feel a pressure to be less obvious about it because of that horrible unfair label "slut". Some or many women may not talk about sex but they are still thinking about it -- if you become their friend and start talking about sex with them on a friend-to-friend basis in private, then you realize that they certainly do have strong sexual desires, just as strong as a man.
SOME men only want sex. However, you cannot judge all males by the actions of a few. Maybe you are regularly approached by men who only want sex, and it is making you put it out of proportion.
Humans, both male and female, are sex addicts or sexual beings. Sex is a perfectly healthy and natural thing and it is normal and common for both males and females to think about it a fair bit. You need to get over it, or else it will screw you up emotionally, and make it more difficult for you to maintain friendships and relationships.
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phoenixjsu wrote:
Because they have accepted that all guys are a**holes, they either can't screen the a**holes or their bitterness blinds them to which ones are a**holes.
That is a very good point. Also, having strong sexual desires, that by itself, does NOT make a man or woman an a**hole. It makes them normal.