Is it ok to tell friends I am Socially ret*d?

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Never, ever admit any of your weaknesses to your friends. It's okay to suck, but as soon as someone admits it their screwed. Trust me, seen it happen a million times

I prefer to refer to myself as 'socially inept' as I particually dislike the word 'ret*d', but that's more of a personal preferance. Speaking to people in terms they're more familiar with is generally considered polite, so perhaps 'ret*d' is the word to use.

I think my brother has used that phrase to describe me before.

I personally prefer the term "socially blind". Although I looked it up on Google recently and saw that some people thought that it is offensive to blind people for some reason, I personally don't see anything wrong with it. In my opinion, it's pretty accurate for describing a state where you go out into the world and have to take a stab at everything before figuring out what exactly you are supposed to do and you have to continuously make these trial-and-error attempts because the situation constantly changes, just like a blind person would have to try their surroundings with a walking stick before figuring out where exactly they should go.

I just say I'm a social maladroit and leave it at thatl.

I wouldn't use the word ret*d, but I think it's okay to tell friends you're awkward, bad at smalltalk, etc. so they know you're not just being rude.

WOW! That is a good one.
I would say it's a matter of opinion.

Mine would be, if you love and trust your friends enough, then technically you should be able to be completely open with them...no shying away from anything.

On the other hand you DO NOT say that to just anybody.

But there is no shame in finding a local or online course to help improve language skills. Also closely observe human interaction(body language).

We have terrible social skills but that fact does not make us ret*d.

True. Saying things like "I'm socially ret*d" to your friends will only give them something to rip on you for their own amusement. Don't you just love how NT friends are?

If only for your own self-esteem I would recommend rephrasing it... no need to beat yourself up.

"Social deficiency" comes to mind, if you want to use that...

Ah yeah, those people aren't your 'friends'. They are acquaintances.

I have to agree with that; friends are able to accept your flaws as they would their own.

I agree with mathgirl when I talk to people about my aspergers I usually say it is a form of social blindness and I usually very open with people about being an aspie because my hope had always been that it would make them more understanding and gentle with me if they knew that I am disabled. Looking back that has not always been the wisest of things that I have done it almost seems to push people away then pull them in and then when something does go wrong with me they seem to blame it all the aspies and tell me they are unable to help me or understand me even if the problem I find myself in was like something they had been in before. I met this guy once who told me after talking to me for awhile that he could tell that I was different and I know he is not the only one who seen the differences in me other people have to because I know that I do not handle myself like other people. So if most people can see that something is different about me why not tell them what it is? I do not know I like to know what you all think about telling people who know there is something different about you anyways.

Don't describe yourself as "ret*d." Thanks to the way teenagers have used the word, it's considered a huge insult, so you'd be insulting yourself and ruining your reputation. Instead, say:
"I have Asperger's Syndrome. It's a disability that makes it harder for me to read body language and know how to act in social situations."

That type of behavior isn't limited to people without Aspergers. >>;