Growing out of awkwardness

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Perhaps you are just introverted.
Introverted people need and require less people interaction than extroverted people do. Unfortunately, most people (approx 70%, I think) are extroverted, so people that have an introverted personality are sometimes made to socialize too much and therefore feel stressed.

Do you know what personality type you are? Introversion vs. Extroversion
I could be wrong but most (not all) AS people are introverted. It shouldn't matter if you are a "true aspie" or not, the point should be whether you are happy with yourself or not.
So are you happy with yourself?

I first posted the site below back in 2004. It relates to my own views on Aspie self-awareness and improvement of soclal interactions (but also appreciating one's own Aspie Powers )

http://vits3k.angelfire.com

The site went away for a couple of years when Yahoo turned off their free web hosting. Yesterday I learned by chance that Angelfire still offers free webhosting, so I rebuilt the site there, with a few small adjustments here and there.

Regarding the whimsical "Halloween" motif: The Angelfire free hosting doesn't support direct uploads of existing webfiles, so you have to use their themes and GUI web editor. I chose this one just for fun while I built the site, but in the end I decided to keep it. I think the main reason it resonated with me was the notion one sometimes encounters that supernatural beings are, more than anything else, simply eccentric and misunderstood people (even though they may occasionally be mischevious, or capable of inadvertently causing problems). I like to think that the Addams Family are my relatives

Anyway... the above are my views only, and I don't speak for anyone else. But hopefully it may be of interest to some folks.

I kind of get what you mean. But was it Aspergers then, maybe you just had more traits than most NT children?
My mum says that I didn't seem autistic at all as a child (she doesn't know much about it though), because I was always surrounded by kids at birthday parties and seemed happy to be with them. But I was very bossy, didn't know how to really have a friendship (I used to go over to my best friend's house and tidy her room while she sat around), and really really tried to be normal, amongst other things, so I was just a very active, very odd type, until I shut down and became anti-social in the withdrawn sense of the word. I had lots of trouble at school when I was pretty young, but she put that down to learning a new language and stuff. Don't want to go into too much detail, but I think it's definitely possible for the severity of Aspie traits to fluctuate, especially during childhood, without the help of therapy and intervention. Growing out of it almost completely is less likely.

Well, I could be wrong but I think what happens is the older you get, the more social skills you learn. Also you learn more ways to deal with any sensory problems that you have. It does get better when you get older.

Sometimes I feel like I'll never stop being awkward.Someone recently told me I'm like a deer (!) recently,and I'm 28!! ! I guess having lack of coordination as well as long limbs is always a bit much for me.I kind of curl up in corners while most people casually and comfortably stand up and chill out.oh well.

I forced myself to grow out of my social awkwardness at the age of 19, when I was in college. I wanted to be the best student in my work experience programme and set a good example for the rest of the students. It's pretty vain, I know.