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Kiseki
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05 Feb 2011, 7:51 am

jamieboy wrote:
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I find it harder to KEEP friends than make them. Aspies have trouble priortizing socializing vs. hanging out alone in their bedrooms ;)

I'd say make going out and chatting with folks like a job you have to do. Set aside time to do it every week. If you are reasonably friendly and funny you ought to be able to make some connections. Then the trick is to keep in touch with those people through text or email or whatever and plan to meet up again.


My social anxiety is at quite an intense degree so i wouldnt be able to approach someone and if i did i certainly wouldnt be barney the dinosaur by the time i got up to them. I proritize staying in so i can avoid personal suffering and human cruelty. I am also extremely unhappy in this state unfortunately. I think i'll always be unhappy! I was even unhappy during a blow job!


If you are dealing with social anxiety yet really wanna make friends, you probably should seek medical help. Therapy or even meds.

It also sounds like you have depression.


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05 Feb 2011, 3:22 pm

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can help with the anxiety. While I am still a work in progress, CBT has allowed me to be much more social.



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05 Feb 2011, 4:22 pm

I've never been good at making or keeping friends.
It wasn't a huge issue when I was working. I had my patients and work "friends" but since I've stopped I miss the social interactions a lot.

oh well.


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06 Feb 2011, 2:52 am

sigh. Why does life have to be such a difficult and horrible mess? I long for a simple ease and gentle happiness.