The "Cycle of Rejection"

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I have felt rejected by so many people lately. I almost cried reading over the stages because it has happened a lot in the past few years, and I have just realized this. I have taken people for granted, emabrrassed myself, thought a situation was fine when it wasn't, and indulged in so much guilty pleasures that I am surprised anyone takes me seriously. I often know what I did to tick someone off, but often it's due to a parts of myself that I find very hard to get under control. I bother people all the time, and as such have gone through SO many people in the last few years when I actually had a social life. It is embarrassing, and it makes me want to cry.

This "cycle" just happened over the summer with my only friend at the time, and it was hard. I still have no idea what I did.

Yeah this happens to me a lot, I have never had a friendship nor a relationship that has lasted long and I never understand why, its just so stupid that the other person expects you to know what's wrong and they expect you to do this and that.

I guess we need a lot of help in this regard, normally I would say eff them and move on but because it happens so much that it makes you question yourself and that is a horrible feeling.

I feel the exact same way! It hurts the most when you have given so much of yourself, have instilled so much trust in the other person, and then that person just suddenly gets cut off from your life. At least if a rational explanation is given, it makes the rejection easier to take (which has happened in the past). However, now I constantly analyze myself through the lens of that criticism, making sure that I don't do anything that makes me come off that way.

Also, if the person who cuts me off is more popular and seems more well-liked than me, I start thinking that there is something very defective about me in comparison to the other person. I don't think it's Asperger's because the other person who did this to me (who has 600+ friends on Facebook) also apparently has Asperger's. So I start thinking that there is something else about me that is defective and start probing other people for answers in order to try to figure out what that defect is.

Maybe you didn't do anything.

Try not to read too deep into silence. It may be that he/she wants to be left alone for a bit, but will ultimately come around. But if you insist and insist and insist on conversation when someone's having a bad day, they'll decide you're going to suffocate them and cut you off for good.