How often do you get lonely?

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"Alone but not lonely" tends to describe me well enough in this regard. Most folks who consider me a friend realize that I'm abominable at keeping in touch most of the time, and they have their own reasons for putting up with it (mainly, they're pretty bad with it themselves, so themselves and myself don't really manage to annoy each other through prolonged radio silence).

It's probably a bit weird that I usually feel fairly comfortable being "alone in a crowd." It's unnerving when I'm singled out by anyone while amongst a group of people.

Eh, I have a few close friends and a love so I don't get lonely too often. Admittedly I only see my friends once every few months (if that?) but we've been friends so long I don't think it matters too much. I don't get lonely much either way. I like being alone - if I'm living in a quiet place. If I'm in a place that feels unsafe I DO need more people around to feel secure.

I tend to feel most lonely when I am out and around other people now that I think of it. It's not so bad when I have a pursuit to keep me busy and there is no one around.

I never really felt lonely until I started Medical School. I think for me, Depression-like feelings start settling in when I don't dedicate enough time to my interests, and I want to make friends with other people but with poor success. Ironically I feel very lonely when I'm in a crowded place like in the city or a party, because I know that I have to follow rules otherwise I get punished, and yet there isn't many people around that can help me deeply.

I gain more stimulation from my special interests than from other people, so when I'm doing the special interest, I don't even think about feeling lonely coz I'm enjoying myself. I think it'd be best for ASD people to make friends by searching for people who share similar interests, and not just coz they happen to be studying the same course as you.

I chose...

I am mostly happy with the way my life is. I only feel loney when I am around a lot of people or I make plans with a family memeber and they bring their friends and try to "set" me up with them then go out of their way to make the set up fail.

Hardly ever. I don't like people and could easily spend days alone in my room without getting lonely.

I quite often feel lonley even when I am with friends and family. I often have a sense of not belonging. I love having company but am not very good company to be with.

I don't get lonely per se but I often crave social interaction. I'm the type of person that crave things that I don't have. Right now I want a gf but not because I actually care about having one but because I don't have one. Whenever a person gives me everything that I want I quickly lose interest and move onto another obsession of mine. Only a few people have ever maintained my interest over a period of years, and I think I've only maintained those relationships to feel some connectedness to the rest of society. So to be honest no, I've never actually been lonely...just bored with whatever is going on at the time.

"All the time, despite having one friend," was not a choice, so I selected, "All the time, despite having a group of friends."

I constantly feel as if I don't belong, even when reassured. Likewise, I constantly censor myself to avoid drawing attention, which exacerbates the problem of not knowing how to express myself or my emotions. What I might normally leave unsaid here is that I simply have no idea how to reverse this tendency. I'm gradually learning to accept that it's just how I am, and hoping that the loneliness will dissipate in its own time.

I am usually fine all by myself. I only get lonely when I see a group of having fun, and I have the painful realization that I can't be a part and have a great time with them. Usually if I join I will really stand out without even trying. If they are nice people, they try really hard to include me, ends up spoiling the mood and eventually gave up. If they are mean, I will get made fun of and end up looking like a clown.

Often.

Not too often, I kinda don't know how to define "lonely" really. I think the closest I feel to lonely is if I'm in a public place, and I'm alone, and it seems there's just "schools" of people doing stuff or whatever, and I'm the only one alone, usually it's co-related to something else bad happening or whatever, and it happens at the same time. With friends, I don't feel lonely per se, but I whenever I hang out, feel sort of a chasm between me and the rest of my friends, since I have like no huge social group anymore like I used to.

This description of the ISTP is spot on for me:

I often feel the most lonely on weekend nights, the only times during the week I have spare time.