How do you end a conversation without 'having to leave'?

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"I can't stand you any longer!! !! !! !! !! !"


(Note: do not do that.)

Try any of these:

"I'm gonna get going going, but it was great talking to you."

"I hate to cut our convo short but I gotta get going"

"well... all right, I better leave you alone, I'm sure you got stuff to do"

"I'm signing off/leaving, but hit me up next time"

Hope that helps.

Once I was left with the formula "How pleasant was the conversation with you". I interpreted this as a "So long. I will never see you again." And it was just that. I thought the same. but I was horribly offended, not by the fact, that was shared, but by the strident formula.

Why is this hard?

"I can't talk about this anymore"
or
"I have to go now"

I have the opposite problem. People don't tell me they have had enough of my conversation and then I hear about how exhausting I am to talk to.

There are further problems: it's different if you are a guest or a host or if you are on a neutral territory, and if there are other people and who is present. I always prefer to be a guest because I can go away, white lie or not, when I feel I have had enough (not easy even that), while you can't chase away a guest at your choice.

Online its easy. You can say you have to do [insert activity] and got to get going. Honestly online half the people dont even say bye officially, the convo dwindles down and ppl are doing other stuff half the time so you can just abruptly log off. Whose to say if your internet is messing up or doing something else strange?

Real life can be trickier. The few times I go to parties it is the most so. I'll talk to someone and then me and the other person will both realize we have nothing to say. If its a small party, there might not be anywhere to go. I have yet to find a least awkward way to escape the situation. In convos, you can say:

"Hey I have to check my voicemail" or "Hey I gotta make a phone call"
"It was good talking to you but I got some things to take care of"
"I need to meet up with ____"
"I'm running behind today but it was good talking to you!"
and so forth.

You also have the option (if you're brave) of informing someone about Aspergers. If you think they're a more tolerant/accepting sort, they may be more undersanding of your need to abruptly end convo. However, I would strongly caution with this last approach as I think most people will not embrace this.

Best of luck!