23 Nov 2011, 1:46 pm
I'm very sorry that you feel ignored, namaste. I think we've all been in that situation at one point or another. What you've described is something that I've dealt with throughout my entire life and maybe how I've dealt with it could give you a little bit of comfort. First, ask yourself: "Are these the type of people that I want in my company?". From the sound of it, you're not into the drinking, being loud, and partying thing. Do you think that, if you tried to join them and try to be more outgoing in that situation, you would be having a good time?
I can also understand feeling hurt because, from what I gathered from your post, your husband was joining his cousin in drinking, etc. It may help if you sat him down and told him that, while you're okay with him hanging out with his cousin and drinking, it makes you feel bad when he overdoes is and stops paying attention to you. Maybe you two could come to a compromise. If he wants you around him while he does this, make him do it in moderation or try to get him to find a way to include you without taking you out of your comfort zone.
If anything, tell him you deserve a day of heavy pampering, a candlelit dinner, and him sitting with you while you watch a chick flick for putting up with it 
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Wish you the best of luck!
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23 Nov 2011, 2:17 pm
I can also understand feeling hurt because, from what I gathered from your post, your husband was joining his cousin in drinking, etc. It may help if you sat him down and told him that, while you're okay with him hanging out with his cousin and drinking, it makes you feel bad when he overdoes is and stops paying attention to you. Maybe you two could come to a compromise. If he wants you around him while he does this, make him do it in moderation or try to get him to find a way to include you without taking you out of your comfort zone.
If anything, tell him you deserve a day of heavy pampering, a candlelit dinner, and him sitting with you while you watch a chick flick for putting up with it
.Wish you the best of luck!
Is her husband ignoring her too when they are there? Now I see what's upsetting her then!
I still say just don't go over there anyway. Some people are easily influenced by others behavior and join right in. Her husband may be that way. Mine kind of is.
Frances
25 Nov 2011, 5:22 am
