Does anyone else out there LIKE being alone?

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Moi.

I have a love/hate relationship with people. I love deep friendships, sharing experiences and spending time with people I like, but it's exhausting after a while, since socializing does not come naturally to me.

I spiral down into depression when im alone...i need to have a friend or someone to talk with me.

I like being alone. My problem is that there is a limit to loneliness. Not fitting in gets boring after a few years. Although I now have friends at school and at work and, to be honest, even though I like them, summer vacation is feeling great right now.

But I have been feeling much worse since my grandmother and my uncle started living with us. Before that, I would only see my mother at sundays, because of our conflicting schedules. Now my grandmother (stupid old hag) is always watching her stupid TV shows on this goddamned TV right behind me.

I guess that means I really prefer to be alone.

I like having alone time to myself, but I also tend to suffer from major loneliness if no one is around for extended periods of time.

I'm content being by myself. I find it entertaining to see what other people are doing, though.

I like being alone but I hate the times when I feel lonely. Bit of a paradox, I know.

I love being alone. My whole life is dedicated to finding minutes, hours, any block of time where I can actually be "alone".
But don't tell anyone. Everyone thinks I'm dedicated to science or housework, depending on where I am.
Inside I'm wondering when they will all leave!

Unfortunately those alone times for me are far too few. I have never lived alone. Always worked. And live in a densely populated suburban area. Not sure how I'd do if plunked down suddenly in the middle of South Dakota with only empty prairie out the window and the TV for company? Wait...yes I am sure...I'd leave immediately if I had to WALK out! LOL.

I would not like to live on an island. But for some inexplicable reason I am only truly happy and relaxed in those moments when all the other people have gone somewhere else. I soak them up like sunshine.

There is no perfect solution.

I would never expect an NT to understand the LOVE of alone time. Not the way it feels for many of us.

the grapes are sour anyways

I need being alone in order to be able to socialize.
I, m rarely bored, only in the company of other people. Yet i do enjoy being with other people, it's just that i need being alone to balance it out.
Being alone is not enough, i need silence, absolute silence and that is rare in an urban enviroment.

Most of the time. Once I can't handle interaction being alone is so much better.

It feels like a cooling period.

Yes most certainly.

I also like to be around *some* people, who aren't draining & who I can most nearly relax around, but my capacity to interact is exceeded very quickly & I then need time out. What seems to work best if I have to be in contact with others is having people around but not demanding my attention most of the time & having a haven to escape to. If the people are difficult or demanding then they quickly burn through my capacity to withstand them & I don't want to interact with them in future.

There are opposing forces at work - on the occasions I do want company & have this contact then I find I get overloaded so quickly that I want to leave, and that makes me sad for not being able to enjoy it.

I wish I could have contact with people who had the same requirements as me, but most people I interact with operate on a level that I find too claustrophobic. So it's often easier just to be on my own & save my energy for interacting at work.

I feel more lonely when I am among people than when I am alone.

Being around people is hard work and I do enjoy my alone time to amuse myself and relax in my own bubble as some people describe it, but I am not afraid of hard work and if I was never around people I would not enjoy my alone time so much. An analogy would be: After wearing shoes that hurt your feet because they do not fit, it feels good when you take them off.

There's not much that can beat the feeling I get when I shut the front door behind me knowing I don't have to deal with people for a while.

I'm a natural loner, I always used to be on my own when I was in school because I preferred it to being with other people. Now I can be with people for a few hours, but I tend to end up getting teary eyed/ overwhelmed from how hard it is, socialising isn't natural for me. I mostly sit in my room with my pc and tv, perfectly content. I don't need to see anyone for days. Best bit? Going out between 2 and 5 am, when NOBODY is about, is heavenly to me. No one around but foxes who view you with suspicion. I do WANT to be socialable as I feel rude and bad for the other people who want me to socialise, but too many times I've said the wrong thing, acted inappropriately etc. I don't have that same, NEED as most people seem to, they seem to get lonely within minutes and find it confusing when I stay on my own all the time.