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11 Apr 2012, 10:43 pm

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Especially if you have a pre-disposition for PTSD...and end up getting PTSD which then amplifies all the other negative memories you have other than just the one that caused the initial trauma. But yeah I don't put up to well with people trying to put me in my place due to some hierarchy type set up...I don't enjoy being talked down to or being treated like a lesser person it pisses me off. As a child I usually just got really upset when people did things like that but I feel like now if someone tried that I'd have a hard time controlling the anger I would feel.

i agree i could be having PTSD and the symptoms are difficult to understand and others might be feeling awkward in my company
i generally accept the social hierarchy and now i have come to terms with it.
about you not accepting it dont you feel that you might be aggressive
and aggression is generally socially unacceptable.

Not really, I don't go out of my way to cause trouble or anything and actually make an effort to stay out of most drama. But yeah if someone goes out of the way to act superior or something towards me I am probably going to feel some anger towards them.

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13 Apr 2012, 8:11 am

It always seems to me like the quieter people are the more intelligent people who should be running things. But then quiet thinking people aren't as inclined to want to take charge. Therefore the bold a**holes are the ones who get to be in power. I'd be willing to guess that kind of culture is directly responsible for the whole financial crisis BS that happened back in '08. It seems the human race isn't able to overcome the chimp mentality despite having the ability to reason.

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13 Apr 2012, 8:24 am

Sweetleaf wrote:

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I feel the same way. I generally avoid conflict, but if something builds to a head I might just flip out. I have slammed doors, thrown things, and screamed at people. There comes a point when I don't really care anymore if doing such is considered inappropriate if there's no way I'll be staying in that environment anyways. If people become frightened or think I'm mental, maybe that will at least give them pause the next time they treat someone wrong.

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13 Apr 2012, 8:55 am

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my parents were quite aggressive they were yelling, screaming and shouting all the time it was quite difficult for me to unlearn whatever i had learned from them and especially pick up decent social behaviour here in india people are supposed to behave very calmly

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13 Apr 2012, 10:15 am

The world is diseased with too many of these dreaded 'isms.

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14 Apr 2012, 2:44 am

I'm an outgoing NT that could socialize with both the popular group and quiet group. The popular group isn't all that glamorous. They're the most insecure, they rip on others constantly to feel better and they never acknowledge their insecurities, instead the rip on others even more. It really is sour grapes.

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14 Apr 2012, 12:51 pm

Smartalex wrote:

NT's dont face much problems
but we Aspie we really have tough time coping up with this drama

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14 Apr 2012, 1:28 pm

Nameste, I don't want to downplay what you're going through at all. I read it all and it's really horrible to hear about the cruel things that the people do and, I'm sorry that you've had nothing but a tough time all throughout work.... Sigh...

I only hoped that you could find some solace and peace to understand those idiots.

You're a really sweet girl, btw.

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14 Apr 2012, 2:02 pm

Theres not much you can do about others really. You said you were friends with colleagues that were quiet. just ignre them. The loud and annoying ones but be a good friend to ones that aint.

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15 Apr 2012, 5:42 am

Smartalex wrote:

You're a really sweet girl, btw.

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15 Apr 2012, 5:43 am

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Theres not much you can do about others really. You said you were friends with colleagues that were quiet. just ignre them. The loud and annoying ones but be a good friend to ones that aint.

hmm....ya i cant be friends with the louder ones
they will die of boredom if i sit with them...........i spare them the ordeal

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12 Jun 2012, 11:45 am

samtoo wrote:

The world is diseased with too many of these dreaded 'isms.

By the way - when I said that I meant things like racism, sexism. I did NOT mean anything like Autism - I didn't clarify that - it was NOT in any way meant to be offensive with regards to the word Autism by any means, for I think Autism is beautiful.

I meant racism, sexism etc.

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