A.S.: How can I train social skills in real life?

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Go outside and see what works and what doesn't, pretty much. Be careful obviously, but yeah, that's pretty much the only way, just go outside and try socializing the best you can, learn from your successes and failures, and analyze the best you can what's going on. Remember, analyze, analyze everything around you the best you can, apply scientific method, compare and contrast, etc, and yeah.

Rule 1: Everything you see on television or in the movies, or read in a novel or a comic book - is wrong. Don't try to imitate it.

Rule 2: The least threatening places to begin to learn social skills are places where people are naturally friendly, and accepting: book clubs, church choirs, support groups. Then move up to more challenging things like little theatre groups and house league sports. Don't try the difficult places - parties, pubs, large group activities - until you have mastered smaller, friendlier groups.

Rule 3: Nobody, not even neurotypicals, gets it right all the time. It's like learning a new language - it will take time, so cut yourself some slack.

Rule 4: Persist; learn from your mistakes; eventually learning this stuff becomes fun.

Rule 5: Try to find another Aspie and teach the skillz to them. It will help you.