Making friends on Wrong Planet?

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It is.
It generally starts with interacting somewhat frequently with each other within the forums themselves. Then eventually you start PMing each other.
Sometimes the PM's are consistent and sometimes they follow a start., stop, start, stop pattern.

Some people PM you without interacting on the forums - and those don't usually tend to go well. Because you have no interacted repeatedly on the forums first, usually the level of interest is one sided or the other has different motives which means that once they figure out that they won't get what they want, they stop PMing you, and it's usually for the best.

If you are interested in a sincere friendship, it's best that the level of reciprocity is the same and that you have the same motives - as well as having some thing in common or common interests so that you have something to talk about and continue to find each other interesting.

I've tried several times - It never works. I don't know, I've accepted it's a place for acquaintances, and generally other people with autism. I ended up leaving for an entire year previously, I guess it depends on the connections you build maybe.

I've made some friends here but have lost all of them due to losing contact or just them dumping me. One of them doesn't come online anymore because he has been busy with school and all. I don't really consider anyone a friend when we chat in PM until we have been chatting for a while (it's easier that way). The other I have lost contact with because I never know what to talk about with her and I am sure it's the same for her.

People usually come to me. I never come to them because I'm shy. I have only made like two friends here by me contacting them but one of them failed within a few days (but she was crazy anyway) and the other I haven't heard from in several months. I dunno if we are still friends last time we talked, he was upset with me about something small. I did call him a couple days ago and left him a message. I hope he didn't kill himself.

I did once PM a member here just to ask her a question and she was defensive because she thought I didn't like her. I put her on the do not talk to list. Sometimes I will PM a member about something and that is it. I don't do it to make friends or try and fish for a conversation. But who knows, maybe if you do this, you two may become friends. Sometimes the other person will think of you as a friend even if you saw them as an acquaintance.

Because I have a history of scaring people off and being rejected and hurt, I am just too shy to PM anyone due to fear so I rarely send someone a PM. In fact I am not sure if I still want to make friends here.

I'm not good at making friends in real life. I don't expect to be able to make friends here either.

It has never worked for me. People probably consider me an extremist when it comes to the Autism "cure" debate. People probably consider me just generally annoying too. Disappointing, but I've just had to learn to deal with it.

I have not really tried. I am okay with people pming me though.