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06 Jan 2013, 4:59 am

There was this one girl in my class last year, really nice girl but she was a very touchy-feely kind of person and I really disliked. She would always go up and randomly hug me and other things like that.


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06 Jan 2013, 7:29 pm

Yes, I can relate.
Some people just give me this intensely bad feeling deep inside my stomach. Sometimes it can be a little headache. This mostly happens when I first meet them, or later on as I try to be social with them. If I don't get out the bad feeling continues and it can be very exhausting. I used to live by the philosophy of giving everyone a chance, but overrunning this instinct or whatever it is seems to be of no good. Those who give me this bad feeling are the kind of people who are very judgemental, not trustworthy, they refuse to listen to what I am saying, turn my own words against me, are downright mean or out to get me. The instinct is usually right so for my own sake I have come to trust it. Too bad so many of the people I have to deal with on a daily basis seem to give me this bad feeling and are acting like I described. Especially my boss. She has these unpredictally mood swings that seems to fill the whole room and makes my insides ache. I can usually tell she's in a mood because of this bad feeling. When she's in a foul mood I can't talk to her as it seems it makes the bad vibes even stronger, perhaps because they are more directed at me. I don't think she knows that she gives off these vibes, but "psychic vampire" could be a fitting term for her.



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10 Jan 2013, 9:32 am

Op, yes, absolutely! I believe, I get what you are saying and I am sensitive to this sort of thing.


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10 Jan 2013, 7:25 pm

My sister makes me uncomfortable as she brings up things that I prefer to forget also she seems to think she knows what's wrong with me.



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12 Jan 2013, 6:28 am

yeah, Im initially not comfortable around people who are very talktative and outgoing.

However, I do eventually ease in after a while



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13 Jan 2013, 6:58 pm

Yes: I tend to get bad vibes from people who have very serious personalities and don't really like to have fun, as well as people who want everyone to be like them and scoff at anything different.


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14 Jan 2013, 8:45 am

anneurysm wrote:
Yes: I tend to get bad vibes from people who have very serious personalities and don't really like to have fun
This describes a lot of Aspies I know... but then they might derive fun from serious things, so their definition of fun is probably different from yours, and they might not express "feeling happy" the same way as most other people do.


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14 Jan 2013, 2:25 pm

MathGirl wrote:
anneurysm wrote:
Yes: I tend to get bad vibes from people who have very serious personalities and don't really like to have fun
This describes a lot of Aspies I know... but then they might derive fun from serious things, so their definition of fun is probably different from yours, and they might not express "feeling happy" the same way as most other people do.


With the Aspies I know that fit this definition, that's exactly how I rationalize it. Different people have different ways of having fun...and with these people, I try my best to engage them in things that I know they find pleasurable.


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Given a “tentative” diagnosis as a child as I needed services at school for what was later correctly discovered to be a major anxiety disorder.

This misdiagnosis caused me significant stress, which lessened upon finding out the truth about myself from my current and past long-term therapists - that I am an anxious and highly sensitive person but do not have an autism spectrum disorder.

My diagnoses - social anxiety disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder.

I’m no longer involved with the ASD world.


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14 Jan 2013, 5:30 pm

Yes. Everyone has an inherent presence no matter what they do. Some people add/give energy to a room, some people are just there, and some people suck energy out of a room.

It's interesting that many of you are saying you feel less comfortable around the outgoing "touchy-feely" NT females. These are the people around which I'm the most comfortable- because I am able to mirror their outgoing energy and become more sociable myself.