2 have a gf do u need........

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I get flirty comments and my ass pinched off girls when I go out in town on the booze all the time ! lol I'm not sure which ones to get to know better because the last girl I was seeing was a complete stuck up b***h...and that isn't just my oppinion, it was everyone's. Look don't just "persume" you can't get a girlfriend, remember the word FRIEND in girlfriend and get to know them well before dating! Love falls in your lap remember! Give time to show a girl you apprishiate them and you will get some sweet loving in return! As long as you say sweet words to girls one will eventually have their heart melted by you like butter =D

Very true!

Also very true. I seem less verbose here than in some of the other Wrong Planet threads.

But the majority of my friends are female and I do not have a girlfriend! Also I do respect them as people in their own right as I do everyone (I would allow even thoroughly objectionable peolpe to be considered people in their own right - just not very nice people - this last part is a very lame joke). I am afraid that I have sometimes spent more time thinking about this topic (finding a girlfriend) than is consistent with contentment, though I enjoy many solitary activities like reading, chess with myself, and solitary strolling. It must be admitted that some of my feelings of self-pity and envy are really quite shallow. The only time I tried online dating was here on Wrong Planet's Aspie Affection, but I rapidly concluded this was probably a bad idea, though I found a profile of someone with many common interests living relatively close (in Melbourne). I am just not sure if using online dating sites is morally right (with no offence to others who may differ on this point). Also I was suffering insomnia at the time I registered, probably not conductive to clear reasoning. I seem to be returning to the verbosity displayed in other posts.

Here's a plus. The fact that you want to have social skills means that you are halfway there. Try reading some of the articles on smalltalk and body language. And check out posts in the Guide to life section and General Social interaction section. There are plenty of people on this site who have advanced social skills despite having AS, and are willing to give help to someone who wants it.

The most important thing is to be positive. Always look at the bright side of a situation, and if you have a choice between being mopey about something or moving on, move on. Being positive is extremely important to being social. People notice the guy who always walks around with something to smile about. They'll see him as someone easy to talk to, to be friends with. And like other posters have noted, there's a friend in girlfriend.

Thank you for your advice. I do try (sometimes) to stay positive: after all I am literate, have a library card, have good books given to me as Christmas and birthday presents, have two parents who love me, two brothers who love me, live in a beautiful part of the world, enjoy my studies (first a Bachelor of Arts majoring in History and currently a Master of Divinity studying theology) and have some very good friendships. My social skills probably are not all that bad; in the course of my life I have been able to accumulate enough social skills to fare reasonably in most social circumstances, though I am not especially fond of parties (I was only relatively regularly going in year twelve with being invited along with my year-level to various girls' eighteenth birthdays). Good to hear from you all.

That's funny.

Unless you cheat on her.


I find that the fact that I don't have a gf doesn't matter to me.

I'm friends with a few females, and I find that being friends with them is easier.

I reckon I have the social skills to get a girlfriend ... but I haven't been bothered yet .

I don't need a boyfriend. I've given up on men.