Friendship or just uusin the other

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No. It started before, we were friend for 3 years in a for us foreign country. I went to work to an other country and we kept being friends online. Than the chance arouse she could get a position in the same office and I brought her to my bosses attention. She got the place. Now we are colleagues.... (I'm such an idiot it's indescribable I know now.)

I don't think you're an idiot at all. You did a good deed for someone who you (quite reasonably) assumed to be a friend. Then that person's reaction indicated that, after receiving the benefit of your intervention, they did not feel the same way about you. I think anyone, NT or otherwise, would feel hurt and confused in your situation.

I'm trying to look at it in the most neutral possible light: Is she perhaps having trouble fitting in? Stressing herself over her new role? Unintentionally neglecting your friendship by over-concentrating on her work?

I don't have a clue. There is always the possibility that she's a manipulative s**tbag who has used you and cast you aside, but I'd reserve that rather damning judgement until it was unavoidable.